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08 Jul 2019, 2:40 pm

I am a little nurvous for two big reasons. One is that I am too sensitive for the other person and worry if things don't work out between us that the other person will be ok. (I then want to text them or send messages to make sure they are ok or I start blaming myself for everything... I am scared of commitment as I am very careful to try to make sure that I know the lady is the right one. I am scared to take risks.
Also I feel I am not good enough... I mean... Put it this way. There are plenty of more tallented men then I am...

Something else. I believe God has a plan for my life and that I will get married and I will be so fortunate to marry the lady whoever she turns out to be. I think, with my nurvousness of asking ladies out, that she may have to ask me out and hold my hand and not let go as I get so nurvous inside that I may run for it! (Also, I am hoping I recognise who I date).
Anyone else scared to date? I know that once I know that I have found the right person things will really blossom.



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08 Jul 2019, 3:36 pm

Sooner or later you'll figure out if she's the right one. Don't be scared to wait for marriage until you're completely convinced you want it.

Getting reassurance from her can be worked out and talked out, and you can also become less doubtful in time after enough trust develops. You will need to communicate and let her communicate as well to work on the things each of you struggle with.

A lady who loves you won't be wandering off to seek better, wealthier, more talented, more safe men but will try to find her happiness with you and work things out with you.


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08 Jul 2019, 3:59 pm

Thank you for the reassurance Rexi. :)



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08 Jul 2019, 4:25 pm

What are you afraid of? If you can confront and address that it may help you.

I don't believe in "the one" or just "knowing".

I think that anything worth anything in life is worth working for. Good things don't just fall into people's laps.

I'm going to completely mis-apply a bible account, but Elisha went to a King and told him to strike the ground with arrows. The king was half hearted about it and fired a couple of shots. Elisha was bewildered, "why didn't you strike the ground more times?" he cried. The king didn't get what he was after because he was half-hearted about it. I paraphrase from 2 Kings 13:14-19.

Is "waiting on God" an excuse to not take matters into your own hands when you may be able to?



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08 Jul 2019, 4:41 pm

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I am thinking about what you said. There is a little more I have not said because it would not be right to say it in an open forum, and it refers to a spiritual aspect.