How do you message girls online?

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Any tips on how I can message girls online or through the Tinder app? So there are a couple of girls on other forums that I would like to talk to but I really don't know what to say or how to act. Also any advice on how to message girls on Tinder and go on dates and get a girlfriend and maybe get laid?

I'm just tired of being single and never having any success with women and i'm too shy to approach girls irl.

Any advice would be appreciated.

On those kinda sites/apps, I think it matters less what you type, and more what you look like.

On forums & dating sites I make comments about things they mention & ask them questions about them.

Good, simple formula.

I've met up with a few girls from dating websites in fact my current girl friend i met on OKcupid.
The trick from my experience isn't to try and start a conversation through normal means e.g. Hi how are you? That doesn't work the girls on there get 100's of messages a day from guys saying exactly that. The way i got messages back was to make a comment on a photo or something they said in the profile try and make it funny, don't be rude or offensive. IDK try and make it look like your'e not after a response. It's worked for me lots of times.

On a dating site, it's pretty easy and I can give you some advice if you want. On forums, I'm not really sure how you'd do it. Forums aren't meant to be a medium for dating, so I think it would be pretty weird to message someone with the purpose of dating, unless they made a post explicitly saying they were looking for someone. On Tindr, I don't know much of anything about the app, but I get the impression that it's used more for casual hookups than people actually looking for relationships. As someone above me mentioned, I'm sure that on that app, it's more about what you look like than what you say, for that reason.

I did that 'simple formula' ages ago.

Waste of time, especially if they are too far.

I would say on tinder, you could comment about their appearance in addition to something on their profile. On okcupid, don't comment on their appearance right away. Pretty much be more sexually direct on tinder. Don't tell a girl "Hey I want to f*** you tonight." lol. Tell her something more a long the lines of "You look really sexy in that dress." Something like that. DON'T do that on okcupid though. Basically girls on tinder just want to have sex, so you want to talk more sexual to them than girls you message on okcupid. Just a disclaimer though, I have never used tinder. I honestly can't stand the type of girls that would use tinder, because a lot of girls on sites like that are ghetto and it's boring talking to a girl that only cares about getting laid. In all honesty it's frustrating. I've tried it before. I've never been on tinder, but I have been on fetlife. I've encountered the bitchiest girls on fetlife and they have sex pictures up, go figure.

I'd like to add that I don't think aspie males should try and talk to shallow girls that just want to get laid. It'll windup just pissing you off, EVEN if you do get to have sex with them, it won't be worth all the bs.

I didn't answer questions on OKC because I thought that the % match things was stupid and none in their right mind would trust a dating site compatibility calculator. Now I am wondering if I was wrong and some people actually consider it important. What do you think?

I have same problem, they always think that im a weirdo. So i have stopped talk to women. I have give up.

I consider it important, and I usually sort people based on match %. The way that the site actually calculates the match % is pretty good, and thus far it's been very accurate for me...I've dated people across the range, and all of the ones that actually had potential also had a 90% match % on the site. The way it works is it lets both you and the other person prioritize which questions are important to you. For example, one question is about drug use, and I put that I feel very strongly about not dating someone who does drugs. This significantly lowers the match % of people who use drugs. The match % says nothing about whether you will be compatible with someone, but it is very useful as a first-pass filter, to screen out certain things that you (and the other person) consider to be deal-breakers.

It never worked for me thou. What has worked for me was posting aLOT on forums about what I want in a relationship, my personality within a relationship & what I have to offer a partner.

Act and talk like your normal self that will lead to a better relationship.

How do I message girls online? With terrible purposefully terrible grammar and spelling to act like everyone else and at times conceal my identity

Online dating is a really useful thing. Provided you choose a correct website, of course. My brother met his girlfriend on http://find-bride.com They've been together for half a year now, and they are really happy. I've used Tinder for dating. It worked really great for me too. But you have to keep in mind that there are a lot of different scam websites nowadays, and use only reliable and trusted ones. Be careful

I changed my mind on this, you don't meet them online; at least not on a dating site. If you do go on a site, keep in mind that they're talking to who knows how many other guys. If you take them out for a first date, don't spend money on them. Really why spend money on someone whom you mind never see, or talk to again? If you do have to spend money, make sure it's a cheap first date. I'm out $30 from meeting someone online. I'm more worried about loosing $30 than I am talking to her ever again.