TYPICAL LOVE AND DATING THREAD

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Person A: All women do this and that and expect this and that.

Person B: Well actually I AM NOT this and that, and I expect differently.

Person C: You're just an exception. All women are like that otherwise.

Person D: Everybody is different in their preferences, you can't generalise!

Person A: OK. *Starts a new generalisation or continues existing one*

Person D: All you have to do is go out and meet people! That's how I did it, and if I can do it, so can you, even though I know nothing about you, or your circumstances or the people around you. Your symptoms will just magically disappear.


**Repeat**


Am I the only one who sees this pattern, and is bored of it? I'm sure I can't be. I don't get why the people who stereotype get answered in the first place. It's as if people think they'll listen.

These days on WP, it's the only way someone can get attention on here without being part of the "in crowd".

The biggest relationship-related pet peeve I have is co-dependency.

What do you expect? Autistics love patterns.

Very true Smudge. I can see myself reflected in that mirror you are holding up.

Another pattern: Threads started by bill with very absurd questions.

*cough* *splutter*



you never know smudgey pants, you never know

Yes, I see that pattern; I think the reason for that is that many aspies tend to utilize "black and white" thinking; i.e. that it is either this way or that. They do not realize that mathematically, this kind of thinking is illogical, as the chances of it being only one way is one over infinity. There are many "greys" to consider, especially with humans!

I used to think that all women wanted was money, but I was easily proven to be wrong a few years ago; that all women were evil, greedy, manipulative b***** out to control their men. (I am not trolling! I am serious!) Thank God I don't think that way anymore!! ! It really depends on the person and what that person is looking for. Yes, some women are that way aforementioned, but damn it - Not all are!! I have met many nice, compassionate ones on the way after eliminating that horrible belief. Anyways, my advice is to stop generalizing! Black or white is extremely rare in the universe - it's all grey. Thanks to that disproving of that belief, I am not as angry as I used to be. :-) We are all different. Period. Yes, we all share some similar traits, but not all of them.

I think the problem is that they are such bizzare questions that we are drawn in by them and have to ask" Did you really say what I think you said?"

I agee dhp. It has alot to do with black and white thinking. It has taken me years to slowly overcome my black and white way of viewing the world. I think we are the kind of people who like analyzing every little detail as well. And this is one of the most complicated of social interactions in life and I find it fascinating. I guess other people do too.

And some of us are a bit bored and like a good debate/argument.

Another pattern: a female user quickly accuses a male user of sexism because he stated some societal facts. ie. He: Most girls expect guys to ask them out. Her: You are sexist. While sexism means the belief of the superiority of one gender over another, the guy in this example didn't say anything that reflects such belief, he was just describing a common societal pattern.

Another pattern: everyone gets their panties in a bunch by taking everything too personally instead of calmly and dispassionately assessing the comments and addressing them in a most constructive way they are able to.

Oh hang on. you can't expect Arabs to be sensible. Obviously.

Person F: "Since the most common factor in all of your failed relationships is you, then maybe that's where you should start working on making basic improvements ... hygiene ... attitude ... employment ... education ... et cetera ..."

A voice: You are sexist.

If a zoologist is describing the behavioral difference between lions and lionesses, that doesn't mean he/she believes lions are more superior than lionesses or vice-versa, she/he's just stating observations.

Should the zoologist lie and be blind enough and say false things like "oh...lionesses form harems, just like lions" in order to not be accused of something?

Sometimes political correctness hits crazy levels here.

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Person G: My boyfriend is uncaring and lacks empathy. Does he have Aspergers? Should I leave him?

^^ and in most of those cases, the guy is just total jerk and whether he has AS or not shouldn't matter at all.