Would plastic surgery have helped me meet girls in the past?

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In my mid teens thru mid 20's, I was hideous. Ugly enough to frighten away the monster under my bed. Needless to say, 90% of girls wouldn't touch me with a 10-foot pole. And the remaining 10% wouldn't touch me with a 100-foot pole. I think my peak of ugliness was at age 18, when even a homely-looking girl didn't want to dance close with me, although my bad dancing at the time contributed to it. For all of my young years, no matter how much I tried, no girl ever liked me. None. None whatsoever.

When I reached a point of extreme frustration around age 21, I decided to get plastic surgery. I found a phone number of a highly advertised surgeon in my city, then called him and scheduled a consultation. He gave me a confused look at first, but only for less than a minute. I explained my situation to him, telling him that I wanted to change how my face looked, and he was nothing but utmostly sympathetic and professional. He took my photo, and used a computer program to show me a simulation of my new post-surgery face. But the cost estimate was over $10,000. And the physical recovery was at least 6 weeks. Not to mention the mandatory follow-ups and the possible counseling, adding to the costs. I apologized, told him I didn't have $10,000 or the time for recovery, and left his office feeling worse than before. The plastic surgeon was nice enough to waive the consultation fee; he must have seen how upset I was.

Now at age 32, most of this is largely irrelevant. I aged into my looks, as well as learned to dance, and can now talk to women without difficulty, although by no means easily. Even at age 29 on a cruise, both 20-something and 40-something women were flirting with me constantly, although some of it was just them being playful (and trusting me to know that), rather than romantic interest. Which was downright unthinkable as little as 5 years prior.

So, on with my question. What if? What if I did go through with the plastic surgery? And let's assume it was successful and the recovery was free of complications. How do you think my life would have been different? Would I be able to attract girls successfully, and if yes, would it be multiple one-night stands or one long-term girlfriend? Or would I be equally frustrated, only with a better-looking face, effectively wasting $10,000?

I'm sure all the chicks would've been fighting over you after hypothetically going from super-ugly to the more generic-looking midrange.

I take it your post was supposed to be sarcasm.

But when you're butt-ugly, becoming mid-range can feel like becoming the world's most eligible bachelor. That's why I wanted to have that plastic surgery. Also, according to science, attractiveness is mostly about symmetry. While I'm not sure of that computer program's exact algorithm, it probably did something to my photo to make my face look more symmetrical. The surgery itself would probably be on just one side of my face (a la Harvey Dent from "Dark Knight"), to match the other and give it better symmetry, plus adjust the shape of my eyes or something. Either way, I didn't have $10,000 back then, and no bank would give that loan to a 21-year-old for plastic surgery, so no sense beating a dead horse.

To make matters worse, I had a friend who was very physically attractive, and had girls practically standing in line to have sex with him. He was able to cold-approach a girl classmate, invite her over to "help him study", and have her in bed, all on the same day, without alcohol. So yeah, I wanted that for myself too.

Were you planning to move to a different city/state almost immediately after the surgery(or at least after the follow-up visits)? Or did you even think that far ahead?

Nope. I didn't see the need to relocate post-surgery. After all, girls who didn't like me wouldn't be seeing me again. I expected my friends and family to understand (or at least begrudgingly accept). And the new girls I'd meet, even in the same city, would be attracted to my new looks, and simply never have known my former ugly face.

probably something I should consider if I ever win the lottery. though if I change myself who will i be, not me. I'll be so unrecognizable. nope I'll probably just go extended medical coma route.

i don't know if it'd helped you. probably never know unless you find a alternate reality machine that can take you to other possible realities once in which you got the surgery done. then you'd need a time machine.

You would probably notice differencess but it would not necessarily be significant differences in attention.