Is she into me and what should I do?

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Sorry about a lengthy post, but I need your help to tell me if this girl could have any romantic intentions for me.

We meet usually a few times per week and at least one of them is initiated by her. It doesn’t seem like a lot, but we’re both really busy because we work full-time and study full-time. We always meet separately, never with friends. We met at online dating website.

We talk on the phone every other day, usually for an hour or more. Once we talked through the night from dusk till dawn. At work we IM each other every other day. Usually she answers within a few minutes or less.

Once, she offered us to go on a kayaking trip. We were supposed to be in the same kayak and sleep in the same tent designed for one person (and those things are really cramped). We ended up not going, because she got really sick.

She likes to offer lengthy activities like reading The Song of Ice and Fire together or making a website together. She saw the office where I work and she said that she would like to see my colleagues and that she’d like to show me where she works.

She says that I keep her up late. She usually goes to bet at 11, but we often stay together till midnight or 1am. When we go to movies or eat together, we almost always end up going for lengthy walks downtown, in the park or by the lake afterwards.

Sometimes she invites me over to her place. A few times she told me to sleep in her room and there’s only one bed there. This sunday, I didn’t refuse. Obviously, nothing indecent happened and underwear stayed on, but we did cuddle, she tickled and stroked me for a while and we talked in bed for a few hours.

Am i misinterpreting this or is she into me?
Thanks in advance for your input

It sounds like she definitely likes you . Plus, since you met on a dating website, that's probably a good indicator that she's looking for a relationship. I hope it works out for you, it sounds like the making of a really sweet relationship.

Yes, she is into you. Just carry on the way you are at the moment, things aren't happening quickly, which is a good sign.

I'd have to add another resounding yes.

I'd say it's quite likely she's into you, as she makes an effort to talk to and be with you, and cuddling in her bed is seldom an activity undertaken by just friends. Also the fact that you met on an online dating website indicates that she's looking for love. How long have you been talking for?

lucky

She is into you. Keep doing what you have been.

Sounds like she is into you! Just keep doing what your doing.

Also it's not like I couldn't go home. I live 10-15 minutes away and I wasn't drunk.

Thanks for your opinions and encouragement

I blew yet another chance of relationship due to my AS.

She invited me over, but was excited about meeting her other male friend later that evening. Unfortunately, he didn't call back and that must've made her sad. She didn't say that it was important to her or that it affected her mood. She talked very little at all.

In the end, I didn't have a lot of input to work with so I tried to talk about other things, hoping it would cheer her up. I only made it worse. She said that I don't ask her what happened and that I don't care. I asked her then, but she said that my questions are incorrect and basically told me to leave. At that point we were in the natural park (i.e. a forest), I was there for the first time, it was getting dark, there's no lighting there and my phone died.

I did say that I didn't meant to hurt her and later apologised with a text, but I don't expect her to reply.

I don't really see what I did wrong. I was there for her with the best intentions. How I could've known what to do if she never even mentioned what is going on? I personally don't get depressed when someone cancel a friendly meeting or even a romantic date. Maybe something important came up.

On the other hand, I don't have to guess if she's into me. Not only was she excited about meeting him, but she also made me call my friend to meet with me. A nice way to "get rid of me".

Too bad it didn't work out, she's a nice person.

You waited too long I guess, things should have been escalated when you were with her in HER bed.

When she cuddled you, I bet that she wanted you to kiss her and things would go mutually further then.

And because you failed to perform, she shifted to another male friend, that's the way horny women often behave.

All this 'drama' she's showing you now is because of that.

Yes, I agree with Boo. You probably took too long, and she was going out with a new guy that cancelled on her. NTs are just so strange.

That would make sense. Now, when I think about it, our all meetings were unplanned and very spontaneous. As if she was planning to meet someone else but it got canceled. Sometimes she would call me at 9pm or 10pm and offer to meet right away. I bet this guy was always in the picture. She told me that she has many guy friends, but most often hangs out either with me or this other guy.