Is there anyone like me?

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I shall get straight to the point. I haven't had a proper girlfriend, but i have had a fair amount of boyfriends, none of whom have been noticeably on the spectrum. I don't want to go on a bisexual or gay website, and its more important to find someone who i might share significant personalty traits of the kind people sometimes share on Wrongplanet. I'm not really looking for guy, so any thoughts on how i should go about it, i don't really feel comfortable messaging random girls to see if they want to talk to me. I'm quite new here, has anyone got any thoughts about what i could do?
Katie.

I'm very sure there are plenty of LGBT people who are on the spectrum. Do keep your hopes up and keep looking for what you want in a person.

Thanks, i shall

Welcome to WP, Katie!

I'm not exactly sure what you could do as I'm not an expert in this, I agree that something like a dating site or whatever is not the best option, it can be risky since you could be talking to anybody, and sometimes of course people are not who they say they are. But I do hope you find the right person, keep looking and hopefully you will. Good luck!

By the way, if you're interested, and if you haven't discovered it already, there is an LGBT forum here, to discuss anything to do with LGBT.

Hope you enjoy your stay here

I did meet my current partner on an LGBTI dating website, but she was a needle in a haystack. I kept persisting with the site just in case someone like-minded showed up, but most of the time I didn't feel like I had much in common with any of the members. But basically, if I hadn't been using the site, I feel quite certain that we never would have met, so I think it's worth trying avenues that might not seem ideal, if it doesn't inconvenience you too much to do so, just in case you bump into someone awesome.

I would recommend OkCupid if you do end up going on online dating sites. There are a lot of gay and bi women on there, and there are a lot of people with aspie traits, and those two things can overlap.

Meetup.com might also be a good place to meet like-minded queer women. I imagine in the UK there would be a bunch of different meetup groups designed exactly for that purpose. In my city there is a group for gay people who like playing boardgames, for example. Boardgamers are less likely to be NT. They are at least almost always introverts or socially awkward in some way. So you might not find a "lesbian aspie" group exactly, but something that is close enough.

As for your specific question which I think is how do you get in touch with people on this site, I don't think many members would mind you sending them a PM. If they do mind, they can just not respond.

I feel sort of sad that I have no chance for you ....alas!

TBH I don't think dating sites, bars or clubs are the best places if you want to meet quality girls. Try to meet them at places like college or church, or any places you go regularly, for example.

Let me teach you some pick up lines.

Wait, before I go further, how old are you??