Want to ask a woman out, but don't know if I should

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I thought I had finally given up dating for good. Too many rejections and ghostings, and I was tired of it all. And I've been doing well living my life. But there is a woman at my yoga class...the assistant instructor, who seems very nice yet quiet, and likable. I smile at her and say hello and ask how she's doing and say her name, but the opportunity for further conversation doesn't lend itself well, as class starts, and then when class ends, she's off to sign in other people.

I'd like to get to know her better. I'd really like to invite her to an opera performance I'm going to go see this month...I don't want to go alone, and would love the company, someone to share the experience with.

But I just don't know if I should bother. While I've gotten better at yoga, I'm by no means one of the best, and not nearly as good as her. So I feel slightly inferior already, and rather intimidated by the idea of even talking to her, let alone asking her out for an evening. And would it just be a terrible idea since I enjoy the class?

Should I try, or would I be better to resume my efforts to not attempt dating, given my past failures. Things have been going well without dating in my life, and am I better off not trying, and just focusing on my life? Or should I try and ask her?

Definitely ask her.

Say you want to experience culture with a discerning person.

I think it's fairly strange that you wish to ask this woman out on a date. You don't even know her. At this point, I assume this relationship is based purely on physical attraction, and how kind she seems when literally being paid to be personable and teach a class.
You know nothing about her.
Yes, that is what dating is for.

But don't you think it would be more reasonable to speak with her after the class and find out more, at the very least? What if she doesn't like opera? I mean, really think about it. How selfish of you.

Also.

Show ass girl.

Of course he should TALK to her at least a little bit before asking her out...obviously.

I wouldn't "come right out with it."

But the only way to achieve romance is to "take the bull by the horns" (that most hated of Social Darwinist/Horatio Alger quotes).

Definitely ask her out....with grace. Say "Pardon me, I noticed that you like the finer things in life. There's an opera which I have tickets for--yet I'm tired of going to the opera alone. I would be honored if you would accompany me this time."

Hey Brian

MisAnthropy is obviously a drunk troll. Don't listen to her. At least have a conversation with the girl.

shes made two accounts on the same day and is not talking to herself through them. this is new.

Two sock puppets having a chat---how cute. Like Lambchop and Charley Horse.

I had a nice conversation with the woman in my yoga class, but thanks to another class attendee interrupting our convo, I wasn't able to ask her to the opera. This was a week ago. Today in class she wasn't there, and the opera is coming up soon.

So I sent her a Facebook message. Terrible and lame I know, but it was all I could do. And I guess I'm lame. She hasn't responded, which doesn't surprise me. I'm sure she was mortified that I asked her out. I'm just hoping she'll pay me no mind in class.

Dating is such a humiliating process. I'm done with trying. It just won't happen. There's no one for me.

Why would she be mortified. You're being so nice reasonable. How else can you ask a person out if she doesn't show up?

I don't think it's possible that that she doesn't do Facebook much . I don't do Facebook much.

I think you should ask her out. She might say she isn't interested and if so then you can move on and ask someone else. But you won't know until you try. Keep your chin up and believe in yourself.

I heard back from her. She has a boyfriend. Of course. They ALL do. I'm a damned fool. I quit.

On to the next girl, Sir.

It's true: most women do have boyfriends. But others don't

At least she wasn't "mortified" by you asking her out.