Anyone who lost their virginity before/in college pls help

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- Turning 18 soon went to tiny hs with no girls, going to very large liberal state school this fall
- Been on 1 date, felt some girls up through "casual/chance interactions" though nothing more.
- I have very mild/a light level of aspergers, and im a good looking guy and well-built.
- Have had trouble establishing a solid social circle for the past 17 years but im making progress. Ive also held several jobs, traveled all over the world, etc....

Literally hundreds of people ive talked to about this have told me i'll be fine, i'll get laid soon, and dont stress about it but i cant stop worrying

I feel like itll happen for me soon but idk. I dont want to graduate college a virgin, i want to experience what sex is like.

College move in day is coming soon and i got a couple of party connects and i had a blast at the orientation and really got out of my comfort zone. but im worried cause i often have trouble holding a convo with a girl unless she make a big effort to talk to me also, which has only happened once and i blew the oppurtunity. Im alright at flirting but could be better. Im not a "nice guy" either i fall between an alpha male and beta... and ive never really had girls as just friends.

Any words of wisdom?

I lost mine when I was in high school.

Just make love with the "right girl."

Losing one's virginity isn't what it's cracked up to be. I thought fireworks would go off--and I would suddenly become mature! Didn't happen that way!

Anymore advice?

Make sure you both use "protection."

I hope you find someone whom you could "experiment" with, and whom you really like. Then you could gradually learn the "right" way to make love.

I suppose it's a little different nowadays. When I was in high school, things were very loose sexually.

Just make friends. You'll get opportunities. Try not to act TOO weird. I think most college students expect fellow students to act a LITTLE weird, though.

Much sex happens in college when people get drunk. Usually, this is not a good situation.

The best thing is when you find a girl/woman with whom you have common interests.

Don't fall for the somewhat untrue stereotype that "getting-laid in college is easy". One of the main reasons that it isn't necessarily true is that girls are aware of its existence, and we all know how that goes.

Since nobody else will, I guess it's up to me to lay down some harsh truths.

Look, you're an 18-year-old male virgin, and from what I can gather from your post, not by choice.

Now you're going off to college. Don't fall for that stereotype that everybody gets laid in college, because they don't. It's still largely the same way it was in high school; only a handful of guys at the top get regular access to sex.

However, while your chances of getting a girlfriend are every bit as bleak as they were in high school, the partying environment does provide more chances for "one-offs". My advice? Hit the party scene hard, try to find a girl who's a little bit more open-minded and willing to spread her legs for someone else other than Chad McAlpha, wait until she's had a few drinks to lower her inhibitions, then go all in: do everything you can to get her to rid you of the burden of your virginity.

Look, I'm not gonna tell you that's ok to wait, that it's ok to be a virgin in your late teens, or your 20s, or your 30s, the way most people will. Because if you're a guy, it's really. And you know it's not, otherwise you wouldn't have posted this.

No matter how much women and other incels around you tell you otherwise, you still feel it, don't you? That it's not right for a man in his late teens to still be a virgin in this day and age. Those are your natural instincts kicking in, and you should always listen to your instincts.

Getting a girl drunk and bedding her is bad, don't do that. Also if you find a girl and you only want to have sex make it clear, don't behave like a good guy then trash her away once you had what you wanted.

Don't rush, find the right person.
Make sure they also want it.
Beforehand, avoid use of alcohol and do use protection.

Best advice: Treat your AS symptoms so they no longer interfere with your game.

Second best: Failing that, utilize the potentially positive trait of AS of "hiding behind a mask or persona" by putting yourself in an actor-like mindset where you perceive yourself as a happy, confident, charismatic conversationalist who's simply going to get the girl he sets out to bed & then when you're already believing and expecting that reality, then the chances of it happening a greatly increased.

But from my personal experiences in life, treating AS and not have it screwing with your social life is infinitely better.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

No need to have sex until you find somebody you like. It's much more important to interact with girls in a positive way than to have sex with them.

And why exactly can't sex be a "positive" interaction?