I don't have a problem with shy guys/unpopular guys, but their stereotype on the internet is the following:
- "I was nice to her, but she friendzoned me.", some guys seem to think that being nice to a girl (white knight) means she has to have sex with him, or at least be interested in him. When a girl isn't interested, they usually turn quite bitter or even agressive (that happened to me a few times, "Well f**k you, you entitled b***h"). 90% of the time, she didn't 'friendzone' him, she just tried to turn him down politely.
- Personal hygiene can be an issue. As you can see in the 9GAG post in the first post, the 'beta male' doesn't look very nice. Unkept hair, fuzzy beard. That's just not what girls like. Superficial, but think for yourself: how attractive is a man who looks like he showers once a month and eats doritos as a dinner? If I have to choose between the first and the second man: yes, I would definitely pick the second guy.
- Body language is half the communication. If someone doesn't talk to me, doesn't make eye contact, slouches, etc., I won't notice him as a potential (boy)friend. Being a bit socially awkward can be cute, but everyone has limits.
- A woman (me in this case
) doesn't like a passive guy, someone who doesn't have opinions, isn't really interested in the things she enjoys (culturally or intellectually, shopping doesn't count), or agrees with everything she says. Men tend to do that: saying yes and amen to everything, because they want her to be interested in him. Assertiveness is okay, attractive even.
Of course, this sounds all very superficial, and I don't want to insult anyone or piss on your bonfire. But it is the truth. It can be very hard for introverted or autistic people to open up socially, especially with people you don't know. When it comes to these kind of things, you just have a bit of a disadvantage. That doesn't mean you shouldn't try. If you want a girl who is attracted to the 'cute and hot' socially awkward guy, you can't expect her to be attracted to you if you're nothing like that (and she doesn't know you). I think it's best to be friends before lovers, because that way you know eachother when you fall in love.
Not all Beta Males look like that. I not a pushy kind of guy, and I am not ugly, gross, etc. and a lot of women seem to appreciate the fact that I am easy to get along with.