Has your date called you out for acting?

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I don't date often, and it's mainly because of the energy it costs me. After working all day, I have little energy left for more communicating and I just want to be alone. But after awhile, I get lonely and want to try dating again...

I dated this beautiful girl for a couple weeks recently, but I eventually broke it off because she kept telling me that I had this wall up and that "it just seems like you're acting." And it hurt my feelings a lot... Because I try really hard to appear normal, but she was calling me out. Of course I was acting slightly, because to me, social communication is acting. It's not something that's entirely natural to me, but I can be very good at it. I just don't want to appear weird too soon and scare people away...

Has anyone else been called out for acting and it hurt your feelings? It just turns me off from dating now for awhile.

Yes! I seem normal or unique to people I first meet. In fact in my current job when I was hired and in training everyone thought they were on under cover boss.

I am poor right now but I always dress up in nice dress clothes and for years kept my hair short so when most people see me they see someone professional.

Also I've been accused of acting because I seem to have everything together and people make assumptions about me and my success. It's not until you get to know me you see someone who is very different.

I want to say the act is something I do subconsciously and it acts as a shell protecting me.

Though I do things subconsciously many things I do are very controlled. When I walk. I just don't walk I march as I have to control my walk otherwise it looks like I switch my hips.

I am also tongue tied so I have to control what I say and when because I do not surround out most words like normal people as my tongue is attached to the bottom of my mouth.

Though this has given me a "radio voice" and I sound like I am a professional on the radio.

Consider your break up a blessing. If she doesn't understand you now imagine her getting knocked up by you and then being forced into slavery for 18 or more years by a family court judge who doesn't care about your situation.

Well, no, because I don't act very much in relationships. But I have been at the other end, and felt uncomfortable around the guy I was dating because he just wouldn't let his guard down. I wanted to get to know the real him but after a couple of months it still wasn't happening - he was putting on an act of normality and politeness. Either that or he just was too polite for me. I brought it up in the hope that things would change but I'm not sure they ever would have. It wasn't meant to hurt his feelings, it was a genuine request that he try to show me who he is so I know who I'm dating.