I have no female classmates, and I'm getting desperate?

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I'm 16, and I only have 3 classmates in my alternative school.... all of them are boys, like me.... It really, REALLY sucks, and all the girls on my block are little, and the girls at my mosque who are around my age hate me, while the girls older than me would never date someone my age, or already have a job or boyfriend or husband.....I've gotten so desperate I've beeen thinking of young girls to date when they get older, like one girl in the 6th grade and one in the 5th grade, but no actual crush..... there is one girl around my age who just moved to the us that I like, but I said something awkward to her once..... later, after her friend said she wanted to talk to me, I said, "I know why you called me. you like my beard!" and after that her other friend made up the lame, phony excuse that they cant hang out with me because their religious parents wont allow it......... what should I do?

do you have any hobby? you could take a group class where you can meet new people. E.g.: karate, photography, chinese classes, etc

There's no need to be desperate. Wait a few years, get a house and a job, then worry about dating.

Find a hobby or activity to do. This way you can meet girls.

He should graduate first, go to college, graduate again, get a job, then a car, and then an apartment. His chances will be much better once he has demonstrated that he can be a responsible adult in a competitive social environment.

Right now, he's just a 17-year old in an alternative school, with no degree, no job, no car (?), and no home of his own, trying to establish a relationship with a woman in a social environment where he must compete with men his age and older who go to regular schools, have their own money, their own transportation, and possibly their own places to live - thus having already demonstrated that they are responsible adults.

I'm not saying that it's purely a matter of economics, but that having the accoutrements of a responsible lifestyle are more attractive to others than having no such accoutrements at all.

At 16? You don't have to worry about getting a good job yet.

Mid 20s is when that stuff starts to matter to women.

But yeah, take your teen years and early 20s seriously. Try to learn a craft, get good at something, study hard because you're setting yourself up to have a better life when you hit your mid to late 20s.

You don't want to end up on SSI or working a crappy minimum wage job for the rest of your life. Especially since you're a guy since women place more importance on a man's social status then the other way around. Being a man means you will have it harder attracting a mate so that's why you need to be in the top 15% if you want to have your pick of beautiful women. You can be in the top 15% by either making lots of money or being really attractive.




But at your age, your social status doesn't matter (unless it does in your country?) My advice to you is to learn how to talk and flirt with women. The sooner you start the better because once you reach the college years, dating and hooking up is lots of fun and the late teens and early 20s is when your sex drive will arguably be its highest in your life. You don't want to waste those years. But yeah if you get a girlfriend in your teens, you have already done what most autistics could not so be proud of yourself if you accomplish it.