Which girl should I pursue?

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I'm 16, and a guy. This summer, as many of you may know, I made a friend who was 17. But I haven't seen her in months because her and her mom have always been busy, but i did see her mom at someone's house this afternoon. She said when she has time they'll visit me. Also, I'm Muslim, whereas the 17 year old girl is a pagan, and im starting to think her mom and dad aren't that nice..... i mean, i sometimes feel uncomfortable around them, but they're still alright, and i wouldn't say they're mean.... her dad especially annoys me.... then, there's a girl at my Turkish center who's part of my religious movement, and she moved to the United States a week ago, and I hung out with her for over an hour yesterday, and we told each other we'd hang out next time we have a program, and I asked her for her number, but she said she doesn't have one yet, and i gave her mine, but she said she doesn't have a number so she wasn't sure if she could call me (so i didn't give her the number in the end). Also, the new girl is 19, and doesn't speak English, but i speak her language (Turkish, but not fluently). I think the 19 year old is prettier, and she's also more warm, whereas the 17 year old is more aloof and shy, but ive known the 17 year old longer and I haven't become friends with the 19 year old yet..... Also, we only have programs the Turkish center once in a while, but i was hoping to give her my number in a month at the next holiday, as she'll probably have a phone by then.... what do I do?

Well whether or not the 19 year old is prettier, that doesn't necessarily mean you should go for her. You should ask yourself which one you think you would get along better with firstly.
Also, with the 19 year-old, I'd personally wait until you can see her again before making a decision about whether or not you'd want to pursue her

You should try the 17 year old, I know the 19 year old sounds nicer, but she's probably into 30 year olds.

I hate making these decisions.

Go for the Moslem woman. Nothing is going to work if you don't share the same religious views.

I'd say you don't need to make a decision. Hang out with both of them, get to know each one, all the while, expecting no more than friendship. Look out for signals of romantic interest. For all you know, neither of them may be interested in you romantically/even want a relationship. There's no need to limit your options when you don't even know if either are romantically interested in you.

On a side note, I would say the 19 year-old probably won't be interested in you because of your age. Girls tend to like older guys. Heck, I'm 19 and a guy, and I'd barely date a 16 year-old girl.

yup, very few western women will consider a Muslim guy

But the Muslim girl is 19. Very few 19 year-old girls are interested in guys as young as 16. I'd speculate that's even more the case in Muslim culture.

I don't know ... "The Prophet", after all, wed his wealthy employer, the 40-year-old merchant Khadija, when he was only 25.

Was she still his boss after that?

Go for both of them and see how it pans out.