A nice trick for when you wonder what might've been

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So I know I do this and I bet there are those among you who do as well, thinking about all those people in high school and college that you would've liked to date, wanted to date, maybe even asked out and were rejected. All those possible what ifs, what might've beens.

I've found a nifty solution. I look them up on facebook, and you know what? A lot happens in even ten years (which is how long I've been out of high school). And you know what I've found about those who I found attractive in high school or college, way back when? That I dodged a bullet. I think of all the frumpy dumpy people I'd be tied down to in pure shrill shrieking mediocrity, distracted from work and ambitions by the ever widening ass sitting next to me on the couch from Ikea.

Better to be alone, to hold out for someone truly wonderful, than to have settled for one of them! Remember that. Remember you can do better. Never settle.

I agree.

LOL, I laughed when I read this. I have had a similar experience. All those "hot" people that I pined over during those years have now let themselves go and are in terrible financial situations. When I look at it, I have fared much better and believe I will find someone like me some day. Karma is a b%^&*.

Reminds me of this: "never think that almost is good enough for you".

The sad part of this is that almost all of them probably believe themselves to be in the small minority that still looks significantly better than their peers.

My school crushes even look better now.lol

My most significant crush who was typically nerdy looking (she turned out she had crush on me too but it's too late now) turned to a gorgeous babe and pretty successful too.

She got divorced recently but I don't feel anything regarding this; it's something that may happen to anyone later in life including me.

I've tried that with different girls from time to time, but I must assume that they got married and changed their last name, because they usually don't show up in search results.

My problem lies more with the girls that I -did- date, and I still know them and they have not changed that much =|