People are begging me to tell them who I want to date. WHY?!

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Okay, here's my story. Yesterday, as a joke, we took up our grad poll as a class (I am in final year.) One of the questions was who everybody thought was the most attractive guy and girl in grade 12. Out of the blue, two or three people start asking me who I like. Then one kid says let me take a guess, and the name he guessed was right. I asked him what made him think that it was that person and he said he would tell me if I said whether or not I liked that person. I didn't answer him. Today he asked me again. And he asked if it was that girl. I am confused why they asked me this. This girl I am sure doesn't want to go out with me, even though it would be blessing if she did. We just have to much negative history. Should I read something in this or is this just an attempt to make me believe she likes me, ask her out, and get rejected just for their amusement?

Should I talk to this girl personally about it? And should I tell everyone outloud that I like this girl?

What should I do. Oh and yes if you have read my other posts this girl is the same girl I have talked about before.

the guy guessed right because he fancies her too? don't give away any more than you want to. but i put any money on my being right about this. turn the tables and ask him who he thinks is the most attractive...
if you want to expess an interest in this girl, then do it of your own accord and for your self. don't involve him in this. take a chance for yourself and by yourself.

Just relax. People like to know other peoples business. Turn it back around on them. When asked again, say "you keep asking about her, sounds like you like her!" Or, ask "who do you like?"

depending on your relationship with this guy (if your friends or not), and if its common knowledge that you and this girl have past issues, he may be just trying to get a reaction from you perhaps even to be cruel...

I did. He has a gf already. I was just wondering. Its important to note that I have absolutely no idea how he even knows I know this girl. Someone must have told him, because hes not the only one asking. Besides if this guy really wanted her, I have no chance of competing. He knows that too.

Yes,people are just nosey and ....yes,he may want to hear the words out of your mouth so he can run around saying.....

"so and so,sitting in a tree,K,I,S,S,I,N,G"When will people grow up.

Dont answer his question,no matter how tempted you are,it's none of his business or anyone elses.

I guess the point i am trying to make is that the fact he was able to guess it correctly is out of place. I am just wondering if maybe someone is saying something behind my back. I think I will tell my councellor at school and perhaps let the girl know herself.

i cant tell... ferom what you have described..

but you said you two have a history... so maybe it has to do with that?

The history is very literal. The incident I had with her was more than half a year ago. But still I have been in class with the person for three months now, why choose this time to bug me about it?

A lot of people seem to want to know everything they can about the people around them. Not everyone is good at obtaining that information. Some use rather crude methods. While it is a rather different type of situation, I don't know how many times one guy I know has asked me what it was I'm eating. What the hell does it matter what I'm eating? Is that just so he can decide whether or not he wants to ask for some? Getting myself back on track...

Others want to find something that they think you are sensitive about. Not outright bullying, more light harassment. Give someone a hard time, feel like you have power over them, feel better about yourself. At least I think that's the logic behind it.

If it is a friend, they might consider it harmless. Telling them to lay off may help, may not. If it isn't a friend, well, like Vegasadelphia said, try to find a way to flip it on him. Try to find a way to make his words into his vulnerability. Bringing up other issues won't likely work, unless, well, you have serious dirt on the person. Then the issue of ethics / morality comes up. Is it the "right" thing to use their same methods? Using what they say, on the other hand, is only using what they give you in the moment.

When I was in high school, people used to ask me that a lot, especially questions like: "what kind of girls do you like?" I never knew what to tell them in response. The answer I had in mind was: "the ones that like me." But obviously, it's not a good answer, so I had to randomly say someone's name, just to get people off my back.

That used to happen occasionally in my group of friends. The objective was to make the target as uncomfortable as possible. I wasn't on the receiving end until I actually admitted that I did like someone.

Tell them nothing. Because...even if you like her now...that may change and Lord it will be hard if they start teasing you about it and you end up not even liking her.

Definitely don't tell the girl...that guy is just trying to force you into saying something for their own entertainment.