Hi all,
I started to change the way enjoying myself. I have started doing some mindfulness methods that make me calm and positive. Listening to mediation songs and speeches while my eyes closed for about 7-10minutes. I tend to make a lot of focus, by looking at the centre of imaginative space by listening.
This seems getting me more of a positive and proactive attitude. As I am aware that I haven't been in romance and dating before, though I think it best to do it with yourself first before loving someone. I know that I want to have a girlfriend and to love her. But with my negativity and stuff it seems I am not. So doing some mindfulness stuff seems helping me to forget about the negative stuff. My psychologist told me that thinking, or even overthinking develops anxiety, leading to depression. It is really bad if we keep up with this. The positive attracts the positive. I do understand there are people with anxiety and depression still get relationships, but they are loving themselves beforehand.
Being 24 years old aspie guy with thriving life. It does seem I am heading in right direction of meeting potential someone. But I need mindfulness to overcome my thoughts and negative stuff. I totally understand that the majority of my NT friends can get confused and find my communication ineffective to them, but the real friends who are that look past these barriers and help you. I have few friends are mentoring me now, which I never had before. I am learning their perspectives as well they are learning my perspective. I find this is another way to overcome the challenges I am facing with. By the way, I have lots of female friends. So I am not really concerned of missing out on a romance relationship that I will wanted to.
So for you all, should be doing a same thing! Be mindful, and let other give themselves a chance to learn about you. Like my friends learning about me, will helps me to understand NTs more. I know there plenty aspies are in love and married have their own families.These NT partners have overcome the barriers and prefer to love the person itself - which is the attitude of an aspie rather than judging the aspie traits. I read few blog articles on NT females dating and married to aspie guy. They say they are not making assumptions and excuses of these aspie guys barriers, instead they love the way who they are. Yes, sounds lucky right?
You need to be lucky with yourself. Get what you want to get for yourself. Show positive vibes, very consistently! Now, I have a masters degree to finish off. Heading to Vietnam for research field trip. Getting another job this summer (four potential offers ahead!). I have family loves me. I have lot of friends that want my company. So is it all positive? Yes. Positive traits from my attitudes need to match to the positive things I am enjoying life for myself. That is attractive for a women to approach to an aspie guy.
Any additional comments, suggestions and feedbacks from you people? I think I done enough!
28 Sep 2015, 6:49 pm
