I just found out what girl I like

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Yep, the title says it.

As you knew I was complaining about being a dateless virgin. Well that doesn't matter anymore, but I still have no dates nor sex.

The most important advice I got from my NT friends, including females that a girl will love me is to have morals and strong values. I felt so confident of this now. I met three new friends just already, and they are have morals and uniqueness compared to all the women I met in mainstream society. Now I am having chance, but taking time.

One girl have very high morals, like no sex before marriage. I am fine with that, because it is important to have her to rest of my life, then worry about sex after as many you want!

Other girl have ptsd and she have trust issues in guys because of her past bad experience. She told me that I am one of the guys she is looking for, but the trust is an issue. It seems equivalent to morals as well. So I am not too fussed with this one.

Other one have strong values compared to me, like a climate change believer and that. But I am a little concerned of her past experiences, that would judge huge differences of experience between me and her. Her morals is good too. Very respectful. Just as much respecting the environment.

So I am not going to make a decision here nor get worried of having a girlfriend now because it is happening when one of them, or the others from the present state comes add to the list above.

The values and high morals women seems dealing with aspie guys quite well compared to sociopath ones. I don't want to stereotype here but it seems quite true.

That's great Ecomatt and good to hear things are looking up.

Things are also looking up for me, because me and my ex-girlfriend have gotten back together. I don't think it's always a bad idea to get back together with your ex, it depends on why you broke up in the first place. Anyway have been getting to know her better and she really is a great gal, she also has high morals especially about sex and some trust issues but I can also deal with it and okay with it.

So I can relate not only things looking up for me but the three women you described my girlfriend is similar to them all in many ways.

I'm not sure if you remember but I was the teen always responding to your posts and also told you about how I relate to you because we both are confident and social aspies and try very hard and both felt unhappy with no success with women well it's finally paying off!

Anyway yeah just keep talking to these women, and let things happen naturally I'd say.

I'm glad everything is going well.

I don't believe a person is either a person of high moral values or a sociopath. Most people are in between those extremes.

Did you date any one of them? you sound too sure that one of them will become your girlfriend (?) or did I read this wrong?

No dates yet. I think they don't believe in dates as much. It sounded like a sociopath kind of way. Morals probably call them regular friends, developing into relationships.

Time is taking time itself. They told me they are taking time to understand me. I have to be myself and be a regular person for my own things. Like my studies, going to Vietnam, applying jobs and so on.

I wish many aspie guys on this forum site should do a same thing. It so sad seeing them not listening advice and that.

I strongly believe in high morals and strong values. It's hard to find many men like that anymore (just in my experiences).

Umm...look dear, let's make a deal: Make one of them your girlfriend (or anyone else)- then come back here to patronize on us. And I would shut up and totally call you my master.

There should be some around. There are lot of guys like me in Meetup groups like 'the young and socially anxious' one that I am member of in my city. These guys are shy, have social anxiety and that. I believe they have high morals and values due to their influence of personalities. I feel belong to this group because my morals tells me I shouldn't intend to break driving rules.

These are the people you are looking for. Expanding social circles will strengthen your exposure and skills to you. I am always wondered for many years to see if I ever going to meet some women who have morals and values. Then now I found three of them. But it only early days to start dating and that. I just prefer to respect their boundaries, and so mine. I want to focus on myself before getting onto them. I don't want my aspergers get into the way of the relationship where that could cause dramas. I don't want that.

We exist but generally speaking morals prevent success. We won't lie cheat or steal to get ahead in life, many others will and so surpass us. We're janitors, cashiers, security, mail room workers etc. we also tend to be more shy due to neglect.

I wonder how successful I'd be if I was ok with lying and cheating.

Its better off being honest and trustworthy. Cheating and lying is part of failure life. Its not on. It always hurt feelings and push things away.

Morals protects both parties.

Taking time is fine, but don't forget to use your chance or else it may pass.

What you mean?

This. I would also add that high moral people are VERY hard to find because they don't toot their own horn and usually aren't 'successful' in life. I was lucky enough to find my gold nugget but let's be honest: I probably passed my fiancee 50 times throughout our lives and never took notice of her because she simply doesn't show off her morals or her religious beliefs.

I could usually tell a high moral woman because she almost always had a wedding ring on! I would say it is the same for men as well.

I'm not a moral degenerate...I don't wear a wedding ring. I don't like wearing rings or watches, or jewelry of any kind.

Someone has to do something. If you both will wait, nothing will happen.


How come high moral people always are married if they're very hard to find?

I would assume it's because they are gobbled up at an early age? Maybe that they value commitment? You are asking the wrong guy. It's just been my experience that ALL the high moral people I know are married, except for a certain engaged lady


I know this is a site for Aspies but I didn't mean it literally!