My standards of love and dating

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I'm just a special kind of guy with special interests at heart. I had bullying problems at school, which weren't ordinary since I always retaliated. That's why they continued to bully me. They were without reason. I even wanted revenge as a result of the emotional damage I suffered. It's the damage they did to me. But all of that's over now.

I'm looking for a woman my age who's had my problems and similar childhood and adolescent experiences. I want a woman who knows what it's actually like to suffer all that. Otherwise I might get jealous of that person. You know, someone who's had it easier than me, someone who lived a better life and childhood than I was able to. I cannot afford to be with someone on a different page from me. It's not worth it. I must pick someone with a similar background to me.

I like to draw on the computer. I like to make and write stories and I hope to make them into movies one day. That's all for now. I won't be able to be on this website all the time for those who don't know that. Peace out.

Think most of us on here has or had experienced bullying at some point in our lives, so you will easily be able to find others on here that has experienced similar things to you.

As for love, maybe you'll find the right girl on here and meet people with likeminded interests.

Good luck with your search.

This isn't a dating website. You should try Plenty of Fish, OK Cupid, eHarmony or another one out there.

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### Note, I've never had a relationship and am probably slightly socially impaired ###
I think this too when I don't use my brain. Someone who has had a great social life, parties, lots of relationships and random hookups and who is really beautiful (they totally get treated better, grrr) has probably had completely different life experiences than me. They might not be able to understand me and I might not understand them either, and must be jealous at them for it.

But then I turn on my brain and realize that's kinda a bunch of BS.
The reason being is that if I love a person and they love me too, we will both be willing to put forward an effort to make the relationship work. Generally in a healthy realtionship I think the two partners do their best to be empathetic, understanding and supportive of each other.
So in reality it might turn out to be a perfectly good relationship.
How two people feel with each other and how well they get along and how they relate to each other and each other's values is more important than their life experiences or how they are treated by external people IMO, you might even grow from it.
Would be a shame to pass on such a potential opportunity.

I hate when I forget to use my brain. I should use my brain more often. I so often forget about this... but IMO it's very true.

What do you think about this?

I think I tend to connect the most with people who have had similar experiences, also. I can't communicate my experiences in a way someone who hasn't shared in that can understand, often. And it's not just aspie stuff. I have a few types of hardships that really connect or polarize me when it comes to relating to people. Also, the jealousy thing is real for me. I had a close friend who was beautiful, smart, and from a really supportive family. We clicked a lot on common interests, but I felt more alone around her sometimes because it just seemed like life just came together for her, with a quarter of the effort.

Agreed, but I still also agree with the OP's sentiments that, a lot of the time, it does make a difference and really can matter.

There's reaching out and being empathetic and understanding of one another, and then there's being a world away from each other in difference and understanding that, no matter how much both parties do try, it just won't work. Hence the reason this website is called the 'Wrongplanet' I would say.

I personally desire a unique or non-conformist person. They don't have to be aspie and they don't have to have the exact same life and experience i did, but still some sort of alternative perception of the world and willing to defy many, many traditional social rules and expectations.

Having the most boring, generic and stereotypical minded female who plays life 'by the book' as a girlfriend isn't enough to satisfy me.

Some conformity/normality is acceptable, but there's a limit.

Still though, my ex turned out to be the person i least suspected I would end up dating but at the same time she was very much a non-conformist.