I have a crush on another aspie but I'm not sure what to do

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rg456
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04 Nov 2015, 5:59 pm

So I have a crush on another aspie boy. However I'm not sure what to do. We're already good friends and I don't want to ruin the friendship by telling him about my crush on him. How fast/slow should I take things?

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05 Nov 2015, 1:10 am

Walk up to him and be like

I JUST WANNA LOOK GOOD FOR YOU GOOD FOR YOU UHH UHHHH BABY LET ME BE GOOD TO YOU!

THE HEART WANTS WHAT IT WANTS!

Seriously bro, just tell him your true feelings.

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05 Nov 2015, 5:55 am

Go tell him you like him. You have to tell yourself it is now or never. If you tell him soon you will know an answer. If you tell him never you'll regret it.

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06 Nov 2015, 3:13 am

If you leave it, you will always wonder, "what if". So just do it, if you get rejected. Remember there are plenty of other guys you can crush on. Tomorrow will be another day.

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06 Nov 2015, 3:59 am

I agreee with the others about telling him you like him.

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06 Nov 2015, 4:09 am

just tell him and be proud that at least you did it.

nothing irks me more than having to always guess.

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06 Nov 2015, 5:04 am

I have a crush on someone who's been taken..I don't know what to do..
But I know I'm not going to tell him anything.

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06 Nov 2015, 5:12 am

Drawyer wrote:

I have a crush on someone who's been taken..I don't know what to do..

We always want what we can't have or what is out of bounds, break away from that obsession of thought. It isn't a healthy or moral train of thought for you and maybe that is why you enjoy it so much.

It might be that you enjoy the pursuit, the chase or the idea more than the actual relationship. Sometimes we can be like cats with a ball of string..I know I was similar when I was younger.

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06 Nov 2015, 5:15 am

:cry: T h a n k s ...

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06 Nov 2015, 5:21 am

Nocturnus wrote:

Drawyer wrote:

I have a crush on someone who's been taken..I don't know what to do..

It might be that you enjoy the pursuit, the chase or the idea more than the actual relationship. Sometimes we can be like cats with a ball of string..I know I was similar when I was younger.

That was actually rather beautifully expressed. I relate.

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06 Nov 2015, 5:40 am

underwater wrote:

Nocturnus wrote:

Drawyer wrote:

I have a crush on someone who's been taken..I don't know what to do..

It might be that you enjoy the pursuit, the chase or the idea more than the actual relationship. Sometimes we can be like cats with a ball of string..I know I was similar when I was younger.

That was actually rather beautifully expressed. I relate.

Thank you..

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06 Nov 2015, 6:16 am

rg456 wrote:

Look at the situation logically and decide if you think there's actual relationship potential here. Sometimes with friends there is, and sometimes there ain't.

If you think there's actual relationship potential there (not too many mutually exclusive personality traits), then grab yourself by the collar and tell him.

Seriously. Two Aspies?? You both suck at reading nonverbal communication. Better to just throw it out there and see what happens than to sit around getting frustrated trying to guess, and then have it explode in an uncontrolled fashion some night when you're both feeling vulnerable and nobody's thinking straight.

If it turns out there is, take it slow. I'm ALWAYS a fan of taking everything slow.

Talk a lot. Wait on the screwing and the cohabiting. Just my opinion.

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06 Nov 2015, 6:26 am

Drawyer wrote:

I have a crush on someone who's been taken..I don't know what to do..
But I know I'm not going to tell him anything.

His lady might be bisexual and both might be open to the idea of threesome. :mrgreen:

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06 Nov 2015, 7:35 am

:skull: X3 facepalm and a very heavy sigh..

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06 Nov 2015, 7:36 am

rg456 wrote:

I don't know whether you can handle rejection well or not. If it turned out that he did't feel the same way you felt, it's going to be hard for you two to act like nothing ever happened. In that situation, your friendship would face awkward moments at least for a while or long long while. So I think it would be a better idea if you tell him indirect way rather than direct way. For instance, you can give him some hints which indicate your feelings for him such as smiles, body contacts, sweet words..etc. And see how he reacts to your slightly blatant flirts.

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06 Nov 2015, 10:57 am

Drawyer wrote:

:skull: X3 facepalm and a very heavy sigh..

Sharing is caring.

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