Sending the first message

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I just find it super hard. Especially when most girls have barren profiles. I'm a girl so I instinctively know what type of messages girls don't want. Unfortunately I don't know how to send the ones they do want.

I do like wacky and random messages from men with beards. Unfortunately I think only guys with beards can pull them off. If a girl sent them she would look silly and immature.

Send a message that sounds like you, and girls who are interested in you will respond positively.

If that sounds scary, you can always add in your first message that you are unfamiliar with how this online dating thing works, so they are more likely to cut you some slack if they think you said something inappropriate.

I honestly have no idea how to approach women. I only know how not to approach them because I've been approached by many clueless men. I also don't have much of a firm identity. Mainly because I hate the way people have responded to me in the past. I'm trying to change my personality. Since personality can be changed its something I'm trying to do.

My goal is to approach women like my ideal self would. Not the sick person I am right now. Some people even believe the ideal self is the true self. Unfortunately I don't really know how my ideal self would approach women.

Hey Devil, you're totally right, sending the first message can be hell, especially when their profile has less on it than your typical skank at a frat party. Thinking about it now, would this come accross better if I put on a fake beard?

I'm a guy though, so that was probably an example of what you don't like. I will say, I'd love it if a girl sent a wacky random message though. It doesn't make me think immature, it makes me think fun and intelligent.

Just say that you like quirky women..as you're quirky yourself.