Planning on asking a girl out, HELP!! !! !! !

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I'm sixteen, 17 in july, yeah, most people know, and i'm planning on asking my old best friend (Who is female) out, shes 13 and 14 next mounth out, (For all you people thinking pervert right now i'm talking NON-SEXUAL relationship!) i'm wondering quite a few things, like what we could do because i'm trying too un-alianate me (Iceulate, i cant spell that for shyte >.<) too ask her, but here comes alot of questions.

Non-sexual relaation ship questions part : Whats classed as nonsexual for this relationship if she says yes, like kissing / hugging and stuff.

We both have a crush on each other, so when i ask her i'm expecting a blush and i dont know, i'm planning on asking her at a flower park, and when she says somthing like i dont know, should i lightly kiss her on the cheek?

Please post questions for me too answer and answers too my questions, i need all the help i can get here.

Maybe just ask her for coffee or something, physical contact mightn't be the best idea straight away so maybe avoid that. I'm sure others who've actually put theory into practice will post.

Good luck.

At that age I didn't really drink coffee, and I didn't have the cash to go out.

It's really nice to be creative about these things. It's more special and romantic and memorable to do something unique- something that belongs just to the two of you. For example, in an era when men took women to dinner, my father's first date with my mother was a blueberry-picking outing. My first date with my husband (I dated him briefly in my teens and then we got back together in our 20s) involved sneaking out my bedroom window at 2 AM in the summertime and walking around on the neighbourhood streets, stealing fruit from neighbours' fruit trees and berry bushes and eating it together. (It was a very quiet neighbourhood.)

If you live anywhere near a nice park or something like that you could take her to a picnic or something. That would be romantic. Plus, if you can cook at all, that would earn you bonus points. Guys who can cook are attractive.

Because you're both new to the whole romance thing, it might be okay if you just asked her if you could kiss her, and then went ahead and did it. Just getting it out into the open like that might save you both a lot of angst and misery. She might not be the kind of person who appreciates that kind of forwardness though- you know her better than I do

just be yourself and dont worry about these other inquireis you've been having on teh forums lately...

maybe join a club she's in or find an interest you can both share. it's hard to get out of the house at her age (least in my experience) so outside of school... your best shot at spending time with her will probably be through a common activity.

Just state planely what your intentions are, what you want, and be yourself!

You could ask her in a different way, depending on the situation maybe (and what she is like?), like "How would you feel about us going out?"

In my experience girls often don't know what to think when put on the spot, I'm talking about emotional stuff here, so there's a good chance you'll get a "I don't know" as you say, depending on the girl, so.. hmm.. you could try the kiss - as long as you make it clear what you're doing and why? Umm argh. (okay I'm not being that helpful)

Dude, from the sounds of things, you have the right idea.

I would define non-sexual as no kissing or anything passed that. Hugging and cuddling can be sexual or non-sexual, depending on who you are with. You can hug and cuddle your wife or you mom, and they are both different things. 16 and 14 aren't THAT far apart, and girls tend to be more mature than guys at that age especially, so you will probably want her to be in control of the relationship at first. Sounds like you should be good to go.

I don't know exactly, but this girl I was in an online relationship with (who said she was asexual) said that a hug and a "dry kiss" was okay, but nothing beyond that.



An NT or Aspie who is more enlightened than I am on that kind of stuff might be able to answer that question better, since it involves a lot of nonverbal actions and responses.

Burned...Like in a bong, could have gone worst, but that was a bad idea >.>.

Did you ask her and it not work?

I asked her on msn, and her friend was there, and she said know and insulted me. Well, tryed too, just just started roll a joint and thought too hell with it and put my music back on. Love sucks.

I totally agree that love sucks. I am sorry it didn't work out for you.

Still shooting for it, because i think her friend f***ing jacked her acc and said that crap too me.

awwww that sucks. She didn't have to *insult* you But I guess girls do that sometimes without thinking...

I give up completly now, too hell with relationships, happyer a loner anyways, Time too smoke spice and listen too more music, peace everyone.

Well, that was your mistake. Never ask a girl out online! Ask her in person.