different types of girls

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does anyone else find it that certain types of non-aspie girls are more understanded if not intrigued by someone with aspergers who is different from other types of guys? It's not a large percentage of them but has anyone else found that there are some?

Possibly, I wonder if my crush is one of those. Hmm..

I have only ever met one aspie male, but I was irresistibly drawn to him. It could have just been him, though.

This isn't about girls but I sometimes find that some men are drawn to me, which I think is because I'm a little different to most of the girls they've probably come into contact with. Some people also feel the need to look after me, and sometimes even baby me!Unfortunately, when it comes to guys showing an interest, they then often decide they prefer more typical girls. But I did go out with one guy for two years so there's hope for me yet.

And besides, I like a lot of alone time, so never mind if there isn't much hope, eh?

Whatever happened with that, PinkDice? I was following your thread about that for an update, out of my own misplaced curiosity.

Oh he wasn't as interested as I thought he was. Says he's attracted to me but more so to his ex.

It's an exploitable novelty for them I've found.

well, better to know that now than later... that's a dangerous slippery slope, there

I think some people are drawn to people who come across as "aloof" like it's a bit of a challenge for them.

well, i seem to be able to form deep friendships only with girls, for whatever reason that may be - but i found that there are girls (bright ones, usually) who appreciate being seen as someone who can be conversed with on a high level, instead of just a nice sperm deposit. thats what we usually are good at: listening to WHAT people actually have to say.
maybe some of us also have an easier time accepting strange quirks, as we each have our own share and are conscious about them (which most idiots are not - that would so annoy me, btw: someone complaining about my quirks while being oblivious to his even dumber quirks).

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Yes, although I would not say in a romantic way. Many females are social people and they want to know what is going on with every person they know. I can imagine that an Aspie could be mysterious to them due to their difficulties in social interaction.

Same here. I think it's because guys, being our peers, are more expected to evaluate and criticize our maleness. There's a certain attitude and performance expected from and by guys. By nature of being girls, they don't have that , so it's easier to just be yourself and talk about things that wouldn't be socially acceptable when talking to guys. I'm sure girls also enforce a similar girl protocol on other girls.

Definitely. Like my girlfriend, for example. She thinks Aspergers is the most fascinating thing in the world for some reason. Ever since she found out I had it (before we were dating) she has been reading books about it and watching news bits on television. I think having AS may have been one of the reasons why she decided to be my girlfriend in the first place because she knew I would treat her differently then NT guys *shrugs*. She knows I have a hard time communicating so we have this thing to where we write notes back and forth and that is where we normally get out our more "serious" subjects out into the open.

geistmann, sounds like your girlfriend is a real gem. (*envy* )

i agree with that soo much...they know we're good listeners even though i personally dont always here everything the girl has to say.....but sometimes i feel like their non-gay gay best friend who they go to with all their problems and it does get annoying