How an awkward, Aspie teen girl attracts a bae.

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Hi, I am a teen girl. I am awkward and say some bad things, smile randomly, forget when people are there, and yet I am quite attractive. I also make myself up and dress nicely. And yet I do not have a bae! I have attractions to both men and women, but I don't consider myself bi and I will hold up on experimenting. All the girls I liked were straight!

The guys I've liked were straight too, but didn't like me. The guys I want would have happy, well-adjusted, sociable personalities. But how do I attract that type? Why would they like me?

What's a BAE?

It's what us kids use to say romantic partner in a snappy, gender-neutral way. Boyfriend/girlfriend. Technically stands for Before Anyone Else, but hey, that doesn't have to be the case. It's just easier than saying "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" or "boyfriend or girlfriend".

It's also Icelandic for 'poop'.

All I can say OP is be your BEST self, which means be the best person you can be and work on your flaws. Do your best to meet new people always and make new friends, and it'll naturally become easier to meet someone to connect with.

I've had two relationships so far. The first wasn't very good but that second's been great. Both were the result of putting myself out there.

First girlfriend hung out at the same group as me and we naturally connected, second girlfriend was the friend of a friend I asked to introduce me too.

There's all kinds of opportunity out there so long as other's can help give you access to it.

As I almost grow out of my teens (turning 20 soon!), and as a guy who's pretty well-adjusted, sociable, and got a good head on my shoulders, my advice is just to keep trying! Attractiveness by far isn't the top quality I look for. Kindness/compassion, loyalty, and honesty are big to me, as well as self-growth. Bluntness is also good! My only concern in approaching is whether or not whoever I'm approaching is in a relationship or not. You don't have to wear a sign saying 'Not in a relationship', but keep in mind, we do exist!

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I really have no idea how old you are but just wait till you're out of high school, girls in their late teens/early 20s pretty much rule the dating scene with an iron fist.

The tricky part is they only rule it with an iron fist as far as guys they do not like are concerned.

Trust me you'll find out soon enough. If you're attractive like you claim to be, guys will be FLOCKING when you come of age.

Just be careful though because there's a lot of creeps and weirdos out there and other guys who will try to take advantage of you and pretend they like you but they only wanna f**k and they act flirty to other grils. A lot of these so called bad boy players make good f**k buddies but terrible boyfriends. Just a heads up. Hey if sex is only what you want then this doesn't matter but be careful.

I'm saying this cuz a lot of aspie chicks get into abusive relationships because they aren't aware of this stuff and they dont know how to say no.

Find an awkward teen boy to date, that is what I did back in high-school. Of course at the time It turned out I wasn't ready for a relationship after all got to be too overwhelming and he got very attached very quick. I imagine it was very disappointing on his end when things didn't work out even though we did enjoy a lot of time together.

I don't know I think sometimes it doesn't hurt to just skip dating as a teen and wait till you're out of high school, at least that is my grim view of highschool relationships. Besides I think sometimes awkward people have a more defined identity after that period of time as well so easier to know what you actually want in a relationship. Not always the case but I find that to have been true in my experience.

I have always been awkward; I am rarely mopey.

True; I suppose I admire those who can easily socialize and smile... I am fine being introverted and looking up to the person for that, but I don't want them to feel as though they're my parent, not lover, socially. I want to be able to pull my weight socially and emotionally while making it clear to them that they are valuable for their skills yet.

I want to be an introverted girlfriend who appreciates her bae's well-adjustness, not a child who needs to be taken care of.

(And btw, I think "bae" is a good way of saying things that are longer otherwise. Furthermore, now I can just say "baes" as opposed to "boyfriends" or "girlfriends" or "boyfriend and girlfriend". And plenty of words began as slang once, I say this one serves a good purpose. :p)