Is There Anybody Out There??

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I am new both to this web site & forum. I still find myself asking that question from Pink Floyd's "The Wall" "Is There Anybody Out There?" I am an old fashioned Romantic, who still believes in old fashioned notions like soulmates & treating a lady with dignity & respect & nobody seems to care. Recent endeavors like placing a personal ad on both Yahoo & Match.com led to three people lying and playing games with me on the former & 39 profile views and no responses on the latter. My Space also proved a fruitless venture, as I made friends with sixteen females with Aspergers & none responded either to emails or even to poems I posted on my bulletins. I am caught in a horrible situation, I still reside with my ex-fiancee although I care for her no more than as a good friend, & we are in reality living two totally different lives under the same roof. Economic neccesity forces into into this strangling spider web of a noose, $200.00 a month rent is the major issue. The sense of loneliness I feel can be intolerable & my only outlet is through my writing & listening to music. Whenever I am interested in somebody else the situation is always the same, either the other party shows no receiperication, is married, or lives with their boyfriend. My relationship with my one true love, Jen, ended because of Aspergian related compulsive buying. I view others who have that bliss & serenity I wish so much for, looking into each other's eyes and seeing the infinity of the galaxy within, with jealousy. Now my dreams of one day finding that soulmate with whom I can share a life and a possible child with are ground beneath the realities of living with Aspergers in Cincinnati at the age of 39. More than ever I can identify with the central male lead of my favorite tv show "Beauty & the Beast", Vincent, in walking alone path through a crowd of five billion people. If any female with Aspergers or without, who longs for true friendship, eventually romance & much more, & resides reasonable distance of Cincinnati is interested in talking please feel free to contact this pilgrom soul. Words of encouragement & advice from others would be mightily appreciated. Have a great evening, everbody. Chris

PS. In a completely (although maybe not) unrelated not I am interested in locating others who might like to become involved in possible literary collaboration. I am writing a memoir about my life with Aspergers, and have many great ideas for stories that come out of my genealogy research. My dialogue is very bad. CH

No advice really...I'm definitely not the one to be giving dating advice anyways.

Welcome to the forum!

Heh, you seem to share a lot of my romantic ideologies and dreams. I love Beauty and The Beast, and things like that, music, poetry, writing... done the poem writing and letter writing. *sigh*
Don't let the reality of most people being totally unromantic these days destroy your dreams...it is good that you have them intact still at your age.

There are hopeless romantics out there...I consider myself one. They're rare, but they definately exist.

wake up

Just nod if you can hear me, now? Good band, pink floyd rocks. Through about 7 years of getting treatment for AS I guess you can say I'm probably as NT as some aspies can get, but I found that if you really just search its not going to work. Oddly enough the best advice I ever got on love was when my 9th grade bio teacher and 10th grade computer teacher were in the same room at summer school. My bio teacher said trust 90% of your brain and only 10% of your heart, cause your heart can't hear, see, or say anything. Basicly, don't jump on something based on infatuation, listen to what you think honestly and unbiased, like am I going out with her cause I love her or cause theres no one better or cause no one else will. If its the latter it'll hurt more in the end. The advice my computer teacher gave me was that when google comes up with the technology to see into peoples minds and their true ambitions then you can trust or get angry if an internet dating site lied to you.


EDIT:: From what I've noticed in my experinces theres a fine line also between what they (opposite gender no matter what they may be) mean by wanting a hopeless romantic. Its literally such a razor fine line that its scary. They can either want a gentleman or lady, who will be nice to them, they could mean nothing and be lying to sound better about themselves or something else.