Activities to do for Aspie+NT couples/friends

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Hi lovely people of wrong planet!

I am NT (female) and have an Aspie boyfriend. We've been together for almost two years now, and generally everything is going well and we're very happy

I'm looking for some suggestions of activities/things we can do together - up to now what we done a lot and both enjoy is watching films or going out for dinner. However, by now thats becoming a bit repetitive. He'll occasionally be happy to go to a bar or so but generally if he's had an exhausting day that's a bit to much for him, which I understand of course! Also we sometimes go to exhibitions or so, but again this is something that we are only mildly interested in so not really something to do often. We also quite enjoy cooking together, but unfortunately we both have communal kitchens since we're students so the facilities aren't great, and often quite dirty or otherwise off-putting.

He's a huge fan of mathematics (but i don't understand much of that...) and also quite into music and film.

I'm looking for suggestions of activities we could do together? Aspies, what do you like to do with other Aspies/NTs? NTs, what do you like to do with Aspie friends or partners? all suggestions welcome!

thank you in advance!

Places with low sensory input are always great; museums, zoos, that kind of places (although zoos are better avoided on weekends and holidays: too many kids)

You said you both enjoy cooking; perhaps a cooking workshop? there should be plenty where they have great facilities

I second museums.
I also recommend outdoor activities all year round.
What about classical concerts or theater productions?
Are there cultural events or lectures on interesting topics at the school?
Art shows.
Window shopping in a quaint town or section of a city.
Historical walking tours.

There's a lot to do...really the question is how much money do you have to play with.
I suggest looking online for a tourism website for your area and see what they have listed for things to do.
There are also community newspapers and websites that list events going on locally.
Many are free or low-cost.

Really helpful @nerdygirl and @izzeme, thank you so much. Have started a list with your suggestions, really love them!

there are quite a few student theatre productions and art exhibitions from students at university, and apparently also a zoo that isn't too far away! Also there are definitely more museums and cultural things we can do especially on weekdays when it's not too busy.

We do have some money to play with but not unlimited unfortunately :p

You could play video-games, board games, card games, or watch TV.

These are more along the lines of things that I (NT) and my partner (AS) do. In the early days of our relationship, we spent a lot of time at the park, but once spring came and his allergies got worse, we had to stay indoors...so video games, board games, card games, TV shows, or just conversations, take up the majority of our time now. Sometimes something getting "old" isn't a bad thing - that means it is familiar, which can be welcome. We haven't done much that is "new" in a long time, but we both like it that way. It's more comfortable. I get enough newness and adventure at work - I like familiarity and comfort at home.

We don't do much with other couples or other groups, definitely not things like going out to the bar or anything like that on a regular basis. We like quiet evenings at home with quiet home occupations. Finding some quiet hobbies - like gaming - that you can share may be a great new way to bond that is very Aspie-friendly, yet very enjoyable for NTs as well.

@LillaA and @nick007 - video games is such a good idea! i happen to love video games (grew up with older brothers...) and i know my partner enjoys them a lot too. i guess it just never crossed my mind to play something together , again thanks for the suggestions!

:O How can 2 gamers be dating and not have played anything together? I wasn't a gamer before my partner and I started dating (like, I'd played Need for Speed and Oregon Trail a bit growing up, but by "a bit" I mean 4 or 5 times a year at most), but he enjoyed playing games. We went to Kmart one day and bought one of the Rabbids games for Wii, then started playing Eve Online together, and now playing games and/or watching game streams is how we spend most of our together-time. I find it much better than watching movies, since games are interactive. Now that I've been gaming with him for several years, I've finally acquired a few gaming skills too - I no longer have to be carried through every game.

I agree! Games are good! Video games, board games, card games... My husband and I did all of these together while dating and still now (not really video games anymore, but the others...)