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14 Dec 2015, 9:29 am

According to the study described HERE, sexism comes from the losers - low-status males, afraid of losing face with other males, who end up bullying females.

Surprised? Read through the various "I-can't-get-a-date" threads on this website, and you'll likely see the common theme that males whose lives have been somewhat less than successful are usually the most vocal about what they think is wrong with women.

True, the researchers used an on-line video game environment for their research, but where else are you going to find dateless males?



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14 Dec 2015, 9:37 am

Those people should get a life. I wish aspies could do that as well.



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14 Dec 2015, 10:30 am

This is something I've observed prior to this study was conducted.

IMHO, men who don't compete well with other men often turn their aggression on women.


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14 Dec 2015, 10:44 am

It's hard not to hate women when you have a long history of failures with them. Men who experience this should not let the downward spiral continue, instead they should better themselves and be nice to everybody. Bigotry doesn't help anyone.



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14 Dec 2015, 11:49 am

What about the countless men who have success with women but hate them and treat them like trash?

This study is bogus.



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14 Dec 2015, 12:03 pm

em_tsuj wrote:
What about the countless men who have success with women but hate them and treat them like trash?

This study is bogus.

Nice guys finish last.



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14 Dec 2015, 12:20 pm

XFilesGeek wrote:
...men who don't compete well with other men often turn their aggression on women.


Or children: "s**t rolls downhill"


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14 Dec 2015, 12:37 pm

For decades we've been producing kids with an inflated sense of importance and self-entitlement. Personal responsibility has become an alien concept.


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14 Dec 2015, 1:57 pm

em_tsuj wrote:
What about the countless men who have success with women but hate them and treat them like trash?

This study is bogus.


There are different types of sexists. The ones you see online I think are primarily of the "low-status" variety



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14 Dec 2015, 2:30 pm

[quote="MsMouser
"Nice Guys" aren't the least bit nice. Good guys tend to do just fine.[/quote]
I am 'good guy' and I had a nightmare of a time until I met my match. I beat myself up for a very long time before I realized the rejections had little to do with me personally but usually some deep seated insecurity or projection. It was hard not to develop a dislike of women and the entitled, snobby attitudes I faced just as it's hard for women not to be mistrustful of men thanks to that loud minority of pigs. My Fiancee even admitted it is hard to realize that I and many men give just for the sake of giving and not to 'get some'.

Luckily it all worked out in the end. My Fiancee is a feminist AND treats me well beyond words. I see now that most women are great and I was looking in the wrong direction. I can see where the jaded attitudes come from though!



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14 Dec 2015, 2:34 pm

I just want to clairfy that "low-status" seems to mean low score in the online game, not low real life status.



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14 Dec 2015, 2:35 pm

That's why the study is bogus. Not everybody is on the Internet. That is not a representative sample.



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14 Dec 2015, 2:52 pm

Today my mom said how my dad was busy cleaning up the house for the holidays. I asked her why men like that are so rare? All you ever hear is how husbands don't lift a finger around the and are as high-maintenance as kids, so why is my dad so different? By the way, my mother does housework too, not just him. And they both have jobs.

Too bad the majority of other males in the world think things like that are the equivalent of being castrated. :roll:



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14 Dec 2015, 4:53 pm

Kyle Katarn wrote:
It's hard not to hate women when you have a long history of failures with them. Men who experience this should not let the downward spiral continue, instead they should better themselves and be nice to everybody. Bigotry doesn't help anyone.


It's also pretty easy for others to assume you hate women, even if you don't, and there comes a point when any interaction with them is a serious risk of being considered an abuser.


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14 Dec 2015, 4:56 pm

XFilesGeek wrote:
This is something I've observed prior to this study was conducted.

IMHO, men who don't compete well with other men often turn their aggression on women.


And men who have been rejected a lot tend to turn their aggression on women (from what I have seen).

It's quite sad really.



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14 Dec 2015, 5:00 pm

andrethemoogle wrote:
And men who have been rejected a lot tend to turn their aggression on women (from what I have seen).

It's quite sad really.

It kinda makes sense! It's not a very clever thing to do, but it makes sense.