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roseanne stewart
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26 Dec 2015, 4:26 am

Hi everyone I hope you can help am nerotypical. I was engaged to a lovely nan with autism. I ended our relationship over two years ago because of family and to be honest I didn't understand autism them. It was hard for both of us. He would tell ne loved me but would not show it. He would also fixate in other girls . Since we split he has told ne he loves me but can't ve with me. Am he is looking for someone else. He hasn't found anyone else . I love him to bits I just don't understand. Alot of people on here would live to have someone ti love them and can't find it yet my ex can't see how loyal I am to him. I only broke off the engagement because neither of us were ready to get married. I haven't dated anyone since him I can't hw us the love if my life. He maybe just doesn't love me! I understand autism so much better now! I gave talked to him a couple of times and tried to explain in the most logical terms where am coming from he has been unkind . But then he is ok. I offered friendship to him then ge blocked ne from fb. Any advice guys



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26 Dec 2015, 7:11 am

If he blocked you on FB, that sends a pretty clear message. If he told you he can't be with you, you need to respect that. I know it's hard to hear, but you should probably move on.



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26 Dec 2015, 9:29 am

If he voluntarily ever tries to speak to you again, perhaps you can go from there. You have to respect what he wants though, its up to him if he wants or doesn't want to speak to you, you probably do have to move on though.


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26 Dec 2015, 10:49 am

Angus, Scotland is beautiful. Until he stops blocking you, I'd seek another person.

Do you play bagpipes?



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26 Dec 2015, 12:19 pm

It's over. Stop pining for the past, find someone new, and get on with your own life.

Most men learn early in life that once women break off their relationships, they are likely to break it off again. "Once bitten, twice shy", as the saying goes. So when you do find a new man, don't drive him away. Don't try to change him, and don't even try to give him an ultimatum - telling him "It's my way or the highway" risks him choosing the "highway" option at least half of the time.

Let him go. It's over.



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28 Dec 2015, 2:06 am

I went through something sort of similar with someone. There is really nothing you can do unfortunately except try to move on. Thinking about the past and how you could have done things differently will just make you feel horrible, you just have to try to not think about it too much and move on. You can still be open to the chance he might contact you again, or at least not block you out. It's hard if you miss them though.

~best of luck



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28 Dec 2015, 4:08 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Angus, Scotland is beautiful. Until he stops blocking you, I'd seek another person.

Do you play bagpipes?
Don't ask silly questions.

Of course she does.


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