Is love for me?

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I used to want to get married more than anything. I have been profoundly lonely my whole life, and aside from a wonderful girl who I only talked to online and using skype, I've never been in a relationship. I've never even been kissed. I'm 34 now, and thanks to a support group I've been attending for years, I don't feel so lonely and crappy about myself anymore. But what about a love life?
Aside from aspergers, I have a lot of problems that, in my opinion, would keep any sane woman away from me. And even if those obstacles could be overcome, do I even really want a real, serious relationship? I've often thought lately that the only thing I really want are the "romantic" elements of relationship, none of the hard work and the downs that accompany the ups. I don't know if I really want to work for a relationship, and having a really high sex drive makes things that much worse.
I'm very confused; I want something, desperately, but I don't know what that is, or even if it could be, a woman. Maybe I'm destined to be one of those guys who people make fun of because they're always alone. Can any of you guys relate to this? Despite all of the obstacles in front of us, is love still worth the effort?

It's worth the effort.

You'll find so many people here with the same dilemma as you.

In fact, your concerns are pretty universal even in NT Land,

What obstacles do you face? Why can't you take steps to overs come them?

If you've got a high sex drive but don't want the "downs" of a relationship, why not download Tinder? Or set up an OK Cupid or POF account stating that you're looking for casual sex? There are plenty of girls out there who are into hookups.