Why are geeky guys attracted to artsy girls?

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I see it all the time. My mom is artsy and my dad is geeky. I'm artsy and I attract a lot of geeky guys.

Maybe there's more artsy girls than geeky girls sense geeks are stereotyped to be guys.

They all aren't. I'm a huge geek, dork, or whatever you want to call it and my GF is one as well.

I am both artsy and geeky and I attract creepy guys...

I don't know if I'm geeky as such, or if I'm attracted to 'artsy' in itself, but I am attracted to women who have an interesting perspective, who feel at odds with the world (as I do). I don't doubt there's a correlation there with 'artsy'.

How do you know it is not artsy women who are attracted to geeky guys?

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What if you are both artsy and geeky, like me?

I find that geeky means different things to different people.

I'm very into programming, but I'm not a gamer, or into science fiction that much, which are often stereotypes that come with the territory.

Some people are techie geeks, and some people are more into geek culture, and everything in between.

I'm just interested in so many topics, I like absorbing knowledge. That can be geeky too.

The only people who I have a hard time grasping are those with no interest in anything, treating seeking knowledge and creativity as if it something dirty. Spoon fed people. People the complain about being bored all the time.

Is it possible artsy people are attracted to geeky people as well?

And why limit it to gender?

I'm an artistic, hippy guy and love nerdy/geeky type females, love 'em love 'em love 'em.

But yes like another user said the definition of 'geek' is subjective.

I'm not attracted to trendy girls who like popular things in today's millenial generation, things like - reading young adult fiction, anime, gaming, superhero comics/films, sci-fi movies, tv shows like Doctor Who, Sherlock, etc.

They're great to get along with as friends, but as a partner, I want genuine nerd girl, through and through. One interested in obscure interests, the sciences, etc.

Geeky girls are too trendy and popular, to me it's not as valuable anymore because it's too common - and I'm a guy who likes rare girls.

"The only people who I have a hard time grasping are those with no interest in anything, treating seeking knowledge and creativity as if it something dirty. Spoon fed people. People the complain about being bored all the time."

- Oh, those people are the worst for me to get along with and relate to. It's usually boring people who spend a lot of time being physically attractive through good fashion and clothing and working out to look good, but other than that all they do is go on facebook on their phone, lolcats/memes, socialize through texting, etc. their interests are almost entirely just watching tv and listening to pop/rap/mainstream music.

I don't mean to sound judgementel or intolerant. I actually try to get along with these types of females, but they usually bore the heck out of me, and I bore the heck out of them. It's simply incompatible personalities.

Just saw this thread, after having posted my own thread about the reverse.

In my case, I'm attracted to "artsy" girls for the following reasons:

1) They aren't afraid to be different, and live a lot of the time in their own head/fantasy world, like I do.
2) However, they don't get stuck in thinking about the logical "why" of things like I do, they free-associate more, which I find inspiring.
3) Their thoughts are more disjointed, which gives me an opportunity to try and "weave" a coherent thread through their scattered ideas. Meanwhile, they may be able to help me express the abstract images that are trapped in my mind waiting to come out.
4) They often live in a world that's much closer to raw experiencing than I do. I feel I can live vicariously through their senses, which helps my aspie hypo-sensitivity somewhat.

To make the above rather abstract concepts a bit more concrete, say we are sitting on a grassy hill under a tree. I'm thinking about the shape of the tree, what kind of mathematical laws could give rise to that shape, how the different leaves regulate the amount of chlorophyll for optimal photosynthesis, etc. Whereas an artsy girl (or artsy person) is struck by the intense "greenness" of the tree and the grass, the way the blades of grass feel on her leg, the warmth of the sun, and can eloquently communicate the pure feeling (physical and emotional) of that moment.

Make sense? She can go just as deep, but I look for the mechanism behind the experience, and try to intuitively "feel" that abstraction, while she is lost in the experience itself. In the end hopefully these can come together, because the beauty of things is connected to their structure--it's just that we approach that connection from opposite "ends".

I used to be attracted to geek girls but they really don't have much interest in me. I've always attracted creative types rather than academic or professional types. Not sure why though.

I'm artsy girl, particularly not attracted by geeks and artsy guys.

I find that "artsy" can really be a kind of geek, from the definition i found below (even if never considered as such). However, "artsy" is not pejorative, "geek" is.

The word geek is a slang term originally used to describe eccentric or non-mainstream people; in current use, the word typically connotes an expert or enthusiast or a person obsessed with a hobby or intellectual pursuit, with a general pejorative meaning of a "peculiar person, especially one who is perceived to be overly intellectual, unfashionable, or socially awkward".[1]

Although often considered as a pejorative, the term is also used self-referentially without malice or as a source of pride. Its meaning has evolved to refer to "someone who is interested in a subject (usually intellectual or complex) for its own sake".

I guess I can be a geek about some things. The problem is, I keep attracting geeky guys who have nothing meaningful in common with me. They're usually guys who watch too much anime and have no life. I don't care for anime, comic books, super heroes, Dr. Who or any other mainstream geek thing.

In movies the geeky guys attract supermodels.

Those'd be movies written by geeky guys.

I consider myself more artsy than geeky because of my interest in fashion, makeup and writing. I can be geeky about some things but mainly fashion and music.

I love video game but hardly play them at the moment so I can pursue fashion and writing. So I'm taking a break from the whole manga and gaming thing. I still attract guys that are geeky or are not interested in what I like. It's a pain in the butt so I understand what you are dealing with.