Dating sites are a terrible way to meet people

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03 Jan 2013, 3:29 pm

That's my general conclusion after 10 years of using them.

I know a lot of you won't agree. But I thought you might like to hear some of my random ramblings.

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03 Jan 2013, 3:36 pm

Certainly seems the best way is to go outside.

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03 Jan 2013, 3:38 pm

1000Knives wrote:

Certainly seems the best way is to go outside.

Meeting internet people usually makes me very uncomfortable, unlike in a natural setting. Maybe it's just me. I've always been this way.

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03 Jan 2013, 3:38 pm

Dating sites are horrible! Totally agreed.

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03 Jan 2013, 3:40 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

1000Knives wrote:

Certainly seems the best way is to go outside.

Meeting internet people usually makes me very uncomfortable, unlike in a natural setting. Maybe it's just me. I've always been this way.

It depends. To me, if it's meeting them in a public place or something, it's no different than like, buying something off Craigslist or something. One of my online friends, I've known since like 2004, and only got to visit him in person last year. Oddly, visiting him in person was pretty seemless. No like "WOAH THAT WAS SO UNEXPECTED" about him.

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03 Jan 2013, 3:44 pm

I admit that most of the girls I met through them were creeps.

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03 Jan 2013, 3:48 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

That's my general conclusion after 10 years of using them.

I know a lot of you won't agree. But I thought you might like to hear some of my random ramblings.

They are evn worse for us guys. I mean you are very pretty and im sure you could get casual sex from them...but yah for relationships they suck for guys and girls!

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03 Jan 2013, 3:49 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

1000Knives wrote:

Certainly seems the best way is to go outside.

Meeting internet people usually makes me very uncomfortable, unlike in a natural setting. Maybe it's just me. I've always been this way.

im always paranoid about why people are on dating sites..so yah i prefer natural settings but inever ask girls out so...

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03 Jan 2013, 3:52 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

1000Knives wrote:

Certainly seems the best way is to go outside.

Meeting internet people usually makes me very uncomfortable, unlike in a natural setting. Maybe it's just me. I've always been this way.

wh is your username green in the users browsing this section part?

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03 Jan 2013, 4:13 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

That's my general conclusion after 10 years of using them.

I know a lot of you won't agree. But I thought you might like to hear some of my random ramblings.

Perhaps. But for people on the spectrum, I think they are better than any alternative. At least there, you know for sure they are interested in dating. For guys, the alternative involves being able to understand flirting and knowing how to ask women out. If you can't understand body language, you're more likely to be labeled a creep. I usually just hope that women ask me out. Sometimes it happens; more often, it doesn't.

For girls, the alternative involves being able to flirt and telegraph interest with body language. Most aspie girls probably can't do this and likely come across as cold. At least with dating sites, things are more structured and predictable. As someone with big-time social anxiety, definitely the opposite of the active-but-odd aspie type, I can appreciate structure and predictability.

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03 Jan 2013, 4:22 pm

wtfid2 wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

1000Knives wrote:

Certainly seems the best way is to go outside.

Meeting internet people usually makes me very uncomfortable, unlike in a natural setting. Maybe it's just me. I've always been this way.

wh is your username green in the users browsing this section part?

She's reached God-mode here on WP.

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03 Jan 2013, 4:27 pm

1000Knives wrote:

wtfid2 wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

1000Knives wrote:

Certainly seems the best way is to go outside.

Meeting internet people usually makes me very uncomfortable, unlike in a natural setting. Maybe it's just me. I've always been this way.

wh is your username green in the users browsing this section part?

She's reached God-mode here on WP.

That's not exactly difficult for an attractive female like herself. All one in her situation has to do to achieve such mode is post a thread with the following title ''Hai halle bopp here, I iz looking for has a bf?''

god mode reached.

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03 Jan 2013, 4:30 pm

No, the feeling is always so much more authentic when two people in two groups of friends see each other, take interest, and the whole thing happens not only organically but with plenty of social proof to go around.

Internet dating is the complete inorganic inverse.

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03 Jan 2013, 4:32 pm

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Exactly, that's the main reason I use them...you know everyone there is single and looking to date, so there is no question about intentions. Whereas with approaching someone in your general community, there's always the risk that you'll end up damaging your reputation, which has unfortunately happened to me in the past. I personally don't think that dating sites are ideal, but to be perfectly honest it's the only option that I really see as viable for me at the moment. And I really don't think that meeting someone from the internet is any more risky than meeting someone that you met at say, a bar. As long as you follow all the proper safety precautions and are aware of your surroundings.

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03 Jan 2013, 4:34 pm

^ I use them just because there's not much of an alternative way; yet I totally realize they're horrible.

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03 Jan 2013, 4:47 pm

terrible way? yes. but for some its still the best way they can manage

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