Are narrow interests a turnoff for you?

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Narrow interests are a turnoff for me. Unless that narrow interest happens to be music. I know I have narrow interests myself, so I try to downplay them. Especially when I'm trying to be attractive to girls.

Good question.

I don't have a problem with people being keen on a particular subject.

Those that take no interest at all in knowledge in general, I can't see what I could talk to them about. Those the pride themselves on remaining ignorant that is is a turn off. It is kind of vapid.

I find so many things interesting, I don't get people who don't.

Also the main interests I have, one of them I don't really need to talk about it that much. The other one, I have plenty of people to talk about it with. I don't care about them having the same exact interests. I find people with their own ideas and interests cool.

I don't really care what interests my partner has.

I'm usually fascinated by people with a real passion for their favourite subject, and often enjoy listening to them talk about them. As 0_equals_true said, I find them infinitely preferable to people who are satisfied to remain ignorant, or who have no passion for anything.

Depends on if I find the narrow interests interesting or not.

I can't speak romantically, but I don't like it when someone is bored by the things I like.

Me neither. It always feels like a personal attack.

My wife is not interested in many of my interests. She dismisses them all the time.

I feel like it's an attack upon me as a person.

Not every one can be interested in the same things. it is not a personal attack. It might be a personal attack if they slate you for it.

Personally I think boredom is in the mind, nothing is inherently boring. However something just don't pique my interest. Luckily I don't just have my obsessions, I'm interested in so many things.

I think people who are easily bored, and long to be entertained, are the people who aren't really interested in much. They find interesting things boring becuase they require mental effort.

I think if a person only has narrow interests, it is hypocritical for them to complain that someone else doesn't have broader interests.

When people are bored about what I'm saying it makes me feel crappy and autistic. I think most people know how much I hate feeling autistic. Now that diagnosing fictional characters with autism is becoming more popular, people are starting to do it to people in real life. If I have one crappy day half the room will diagnose me with autism.

I'm way happier when I have more broad interests. It just frustrates me that I keep attracting people who have narrow interests.

Yes however is important realise that people can't always control how you feel. How you feel is something that is personal to you.

What I suggest is find enough people that are interested in what you are, they don't have to a romantic interest.

I think seeing that way is bad, becuase it is your interest no theirs. I think in all likelihood you could find someone who is interested, just not to the extent you are. There is nothing wrong with this.

I dunno, it depends on what the interest is and how consuming the interest is

I wouldn't even say its a turn off since I can respect someone's genuine passion but it probably could be pretty intimidating to have to compete with it

I wouldn't want to date someone whose interest is so narrow, they don't even want to work because they want to stay home all day on their butts doing their favorite thing. I think that is insulting for anyone who actually wants to work but can't because of their disability or mental illness. I had a boyfriend like this and all he wanted to do was play his computer game all day long and he got himself fired and he just didn't want to work because none of the jobs that were around he wanted to do, not because he was incapable. Plus he didn't want to spend money for gas and food and bills and thought everything should be free and handed down to everyone. He would always complain about how "ret*d" this all is that we have to pay to eat live, how high the gas prices were, how we have to pay for everything we need, how we have to pay taxes, and he just wanted to spend his money on junk. So yes a narrow interest this narrow where they act lazy and refusing to work any job that isn't their interest and because they don't want to "waste their time" than being at home with their hobby and because they want to squander their money on their interests than putting their bills and managing their money, a turn off.


My husband on the other hand still can manage money, takes care of the kids, and he is unable to work and he was upset and got depressed when he lost his job because he went through a break down because his body could no longer handle it because of his feet which was giving him chronic pain and he has seizures and anxiety so that was a combination that broke the camels back. He also plays his computer all day but he isn't so anxious to get home to get back on it or being impatient to get home. I don't think his interests are narrow at all. My husband and I both have different tastes in movies and music and TV shows and video games but it still works out between us and we both like to be alone so our interests are not a problem. He likes the outdoor, I like cities and I am more of a indoor and city person while he likes small towns and nature. I decided next time I am picking our trip and where we stay instead of having him pick. He had his turn. Now next time it will be mine.

No.

Even if it was one interest, I wouldn't mind if she went on and on and on about it all day and gave me big lectures over it. I'd find it cute and adorable and have in an aspie female I use to like.

However, it would only be a problem if she had what I define as 'boring' interests - passive, un-constructive interests designed purely to kill one's time and boredom.

I mean a woman who's only interest is going out with friends, texting on her phone, and looking up memes or on her wall on facebook.

I'm an adventurous guy and artistic guy so a woman who just spends all her time 'working and watching tv' bores my socks off.

Interests that I find far more 'interesting' in a woman are: Sports/physical activity, dance, the arts, writing, reading/book discussion, philosophy, going out doing all kinds of different things, etc.

If it's stuff I'm interested in then I'm fine with it as long as it's a passion and not an obsession. I find interest like trains, computers and even stuff like classical music boring, for example. Interest like movies, music like rap, rock and maybe a small amount of country music, video games, exercise and stuff we could actually base our activities on is fine. Talking about the same interest like classical music or computers would drive me nuts.