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18 Jan 2016, 11:01 pm

Is it wrong having a crush on a much younger man? The worst part is I think he likes me & attractive to me. I feel it's wrong to feel this way. What do you guys think?

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18 Jan 2016, 11:17 pm

Wrong in what sense? How much younger than you is he?

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19 Jan 2016, 1:31 am

AuroraBorealisGazer wrote:

Wrong in what sense? How much younger than you is he?

I'm 45 & I don't know how old he is, he works at a coffee house, he looks like he is in his 20s or early 30s.

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19 Jan 2016, 1:49 am

Your both over the age of consent so I don't think it's wrong.

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19 Jan 2016, 5:23 pm

I found it's impossible to stop anyone/yourself from falling in love even if they surely know it's wrong for them.

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19 Jan 2016, 5:28 pm

You're both adults, so there's nothing wrong ethically. I'm sure age-gap relationships come with their own set of problems, but so does any relationship.

So, if you want to, go for it.

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19 Jan 2016, 8:01 pm

Why is this under Love & Dating? I'm not in love or in a relationship. It is crush. I'm not sure what dating means & I don't know what love is.

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19 Jan 2016, 8:03 pm

If you like this guy, and this guy likes you, why don't you go out on a date?

You have nice hair; I can see why a man would be interested in you.

Just don't let him take advantage of you.

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19 Jan 2016, 8:46 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:

Why is this under Love & Dating? I'm not in love or in a relationship. It is crush. I'm not sure what dating means & I don't know what love is.

Crushes are related to L&D

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19 Jan 2016, 9:28 pm

FWIW, my ex was 10 years older than me and we were together for approx. 6 years (we split up 3 years ago; long story).

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19 Jan 2016, 9:35 pm

I have a friend whose 61, and she's involved with a 33-year-old guy. I'd say don't worry about the age difference. If you like this guy, no problem!

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19 Jan 2016, 10:07 pm

It's not rare, at all, for guys to like older women.

Vice versa--that's even more common.

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20 Jan 2016, 2:28 am

nick007 wrote:

Kitty4670 wrote:

Why is this under Love & Dating? I'm not in love or in a relationship. It is crush. I'm not sure what dating means & I don't know what love is.

Crushes are related to L&D

I didn't know that. Sometimes I'm not sure where to put a post.

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20 Jan 2016, 3:48 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

If you like this guy, and this guy likes you, why don't you go out on a date?

You have nice hair; I can see why a man would be interested in you.

Just don't let him take advantage of you.

I'm not sure if he likes me, he been showing signs he likes me & maybe wanting to get to know me, he been looking at me, giving me eye contacted, I think he said hi to me once, he always have to take my order & he been spelling my name right (my name is Lara, that is not hard to spell, people been calling me Laura or spelling it that way) he also talked to me once, he never talk to me. What if I'm wrong about him, I'm scared that I will get hurt again. I don't know if he likes me or not. It's like I'm a teenager, I can't make eye contact with him, I'm ok with giving him my order. I have 0 experience with men, I had one boyfriend, in my early 20s, I jumped into that relationship after 2 weeks of knowing him, I didn't ask questions to get to know him maybe that why it lasted 4 months. If something did happen between me & this guy, I would get scared that I would screw it up. He's normal, I'm not, I don't know if he would want a 45 year old woman & I have to tell him I have Cerebral Palsy, Aspergers & Psoriasis, I don't know if he will be ok with it. I think I would be a bad girlfriend.

How can my hair make a man interested in me? If he is interested in me, I think another part of me catch his eye & I got it unfortunately.

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20 Jan 2016, 6:25 am

Men like women who have long and pretty hair.

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20 Jan 2016, 4:12 pm

Can someone please tell me what dating & love means?

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