Pregnant NT wife w/ Aspie husband

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Hi!
I'm Lana, and I'm 32 years old. My husband has adult aspergers, and I'm pregnant with our first child.

It's been hard for me adjusting to his Aspergers, but I love him so I've learned so much to help support him.

Recently, its gotten harder to be sensitive and compassionate to his reactions and "ways" (I guess due to my own hormones).

I'm scared that I may get short with him, and I want to prevent that.

He doesn't like crowds, and even in the super market he wants me to stay with him. He also mumbles a lot, and for some reason (my hormones???) This is getting to me. I politely ask him to speak up, but he still talks way too low.

I guess my question is what are the best self care practices to continue being there for him, and prevent Burnout for me?

Sounds like some of the things that I do. What I would say is that you should probably try to at occasionally be with friends and have a social life without necessarily having him with you. If he doesn't like crowds and at the moment you're having a having a hard time trying to tolerate that, then I would try to avoid them, at least for now. Although, there will always be situations where he will be exposed to crowds, especially when you're doing things as a couple.

At a stressful time in your life, you need to make sure you have plenty of relaxation time so you can deal with whatever life throws at you. It can be a spa weekend or just a few minutes of controlled breathing. Embrace the simple pleasures of life.