Somebody Been Paying For Me

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15 Feb 2016, 6:13 pm

I been eating lunch at this restaurant & someone been paying for my lunch, this is the third time. I think it is that guy I have a crush on, I HOPE I'm right.

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15 Feb 2016, 6:39 pm

That would be way cool!

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15 Feb 2016, 6:40 pm

Is there a way you can find out? And, how did you find out anyway somebody else has been paying?

Is it like one of those 'tab' things and someone's been paying for your tab?

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15 Feb 2016, 8:20 pm

Outrider wrote:

Is there a way you can find out? And, how did you find out anyway somebody else has been paying?

Is it like one of those 'tab' things and someone's been paying for your tab?

I asked 2 bartenders, they don't know. That person who is paying want to keep it a secret, I wish I know who paying & why being secretive.

Does bartender have a different name if that person is a woman?

When I asked for the bill, the bartenders told me someone else paid for my lunch, this never happened to me before, but it happened three times now. I have a mystery to solve, I guess.

It wasn't a tab, I paid for lunch before.

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15 Feb 2016, 8:24 pm

Is this at the coffee place? Then the server wouldn't be known as a bartender. He would be known as a barista.

Nobody calls a woman bartender "bar maid" any more. It's considered an insult. A woman bartender is a bartender.

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15 Feb 2016, 10:16 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

This wasn't at the coffee house, the place is being remodeled. I was at a restaurant.

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16 Feb 2016, 5:57 am

Why this never happens to me?

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16 Feb 2016, 10:07 am

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Why this never happens to me?

There are doubtless any number of reasons one could put forward, but I would say that, stastically, you're in the majority. It's a rare thing to happen.

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16 Feb 2016, 10:19 am

The only case I know people do that, is when it's out of pity or charity, if the person looks too poor or homeless. I knew a restaurant owner who did it for a particular person.

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16 Feb 2016, 10:21 am

I doubt very much that this is the case in this situation.

She doesn't look poor or homeless.

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16 Feb 2016, 10:24 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

I doubt very much that this is the case in this situation.

She doesn't look poor or homeless.

Why an admirer would be so secretive then? And for three times?

It makes no sense.

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16 Feb 2016, 10:31 am

There are lots of shy people who like to be "secret admirers" in the US.

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16 Feb 2016, 10:33 am

I thought only teens do it.

Isn't the guy she likes a waiter there or something?

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16 Feb 2016, 10:35 am

Unless your crush works there, I doubt he's been paying the bills.

It's likely the bartender who first tells you that your lunch has been paid for. If you don't have any body language to interpret the situation, you're likely missing something. He could be making it out to be a secret, but hinting in body language that it's him. Aspies classically miss these cues.

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16 Feb 2016, 10:39 am

I wonder if this same guy works at the coffee place AND the restaurant.

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16 Feb 2016, 11:05 am

Kitty, next time order a red lobster or a month-aged steak with some fine wine.

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