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Hi,

I've been talking to this girl for months now and she's usually very talkative and recently she's changed the way she's been talking to me and it confuses me. She's still interested in meeting up. I just wondered if anyone could give me some advice on overthinking? My mind has been racing with thoughts and I don't want it to ruin anything.

Please help.

I'm sorry but your post doesn't offer much in the way of detail.

How has she changed?
What prompted the change? Were you discussing something that you feel may have put her off?
You've titled your thread as "dating" so presumably this is to be a romantic meet up, which by the sounds is still to go ahead.

Without additional details I'll just offer the following bit of advice... Relax. Ask yourself what the worst that could happen, is. Then ask yourself if it would really be as bad as you think. The world is full of people. Unfortunately lol
Even your corner of the world

I gather that you like her but no point hankering after someone that doesn't like you back. If she's withdrawing from you for whatever reason then take her cue and chill out a bit.

Don't try and force it. If it happens, it should happen organically.

Hi, thank you for the reply and for the advice. Sorry I didn't realise I never put the details down.

At first she has always been very talkative, asking questions and playing games to keepe conversation going but recently she's been quite short with me and I don't understand why? I haven't done anything different. She says she really likes me after I said it to her but that makes me worry if she just said it because I did. I've never been on a proper date but it's in two days. I'm scared haha. I'm not good with people but been working towards this. I have bad eye contact. I also wondered if anyone had tips for overthinking situations?

It's tomorrow we are meeting for the first time.

I'm getting really anxious.

I don't have any tips, though be aware she'll likely be nervous too, if that helps.

Her change in behaviour could have all sorts of causes, plenty of which would have nothing to do with you. She still wants to meet up with you.

Good luck for tomorrow/today. Be careful - I assume/hope you're meeting somewhere very public.

Yeah, we met in Glasgow. Very busy city. I think it went pretty well but not sure how it did for her. She was busy afterwards. Managed to make eye contact for the first time aha.

I'm glad you had a good experience : )

Especially all the firsts. Meeting someone. Making eye contact. To me this situation reads like a win!
Even if you two don't go further, least you now know you can and there will be others, so you will be more confident going forward.

It sounds pretty good.

Would you like to meet up again? Did you make any plans?

I foun out yesterday the girl I went on a date with isn't interested in me romantically which is pretty disappointing and slightly confusing because I never realised on the date but you guys are totally right I never would have donet this a couple of months ago and it still is an experience. I embarrassed myself a couple of times but I'll learn from it. There's still positives.