The WP undatable club

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02 Mar 2011, 11:34 am

There are numerous posts on WP about how to improve ones chance for a date/relation. However, it seems there are some people (myself included) who are genuinely not compatible with dating / relationships.

That is the purpose for this WP Un-datable Club - to make ourselves happy without bothering with trying to find a relation.

Anyone who is
a) not currently in a relation
b) not looking forward for a date/relation
are welcome to join.

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02 Mar 2011, 11:53 am

Hello,

That sounds like quite an interesting idea. I'm sorry that I'm not qualified to join.

Do you have any provisions for rapid exit? I've observed that cutting off the hunt for a mate can strongly increase the likelihood of one joining your life!

Have a great day, and good luck with your project!

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02 Mar 2011, 12:10 pm

I'm not 100% sure if I'm undateable and I'm still kind of looking (but not very actively) so I'm not sure if I qualify...

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02 Mar 2011, 12:16 pm

I think that is a bad idea, very 'self fulfilling profecy' orientated

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02 Mar 2011, 12:25 pm

lotusblossom wrote:

I think that is a bad idea, very 'self fulfilling profecy' orientated

See that as finding virtue out of necessity. Given there is no reasonable chance to find a happy relation, then what are the possibilities? The bottom line: a relationship is not everything.

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02 Mar 2011, 12:40 pm

I can probably join up. While I definitely do not oppose the idea of ever meeting someone to date, I don't see it happening. From my poor financial circumstances, to my limited, guy centric interests, to my looks.

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02 Mar 2011, 12:54 pm

What about the people like me who want a relationship but can't ever get one because they don't like me?

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02 Mar 2011, 3:52 pm

There are billions of females out there, it is just not true that nobody would date you. IT is more a matter of you not getting into contact with those females. Say you date a 100 females would every one of those not want to be with you ?, what if you date a 1000 ? would there still be no one that would want you?. Its all a matter of numbers. YOU know that there are people out there that would like you.

So please stop this undateable crap, you are worthy of being dated by someone out there AND YOU WELL KNOW IT.
Being unworthy of another person is a different thing then having the odds against you.

Chances are pretty bad for life happening but here we are. Billions of planets or billions of people its the same in that regard you only need one of them where all the conditions are right for it to happen.

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02 Mar 2011, 4:23 pm

TB wrote:

Yup, this. Besides, the more down on yourself that you are, the less likely it is that someone would want to date you.

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02 Mar 2011, 4:29 pm

01001011 wrote:

lotusblossom wrote:

I think that is a bad idea, very 'self fulfilling profecy' orientated

See that as finding virtue out of necessity. Given there is no reasonable chance to find a happy relation, then what are the possibilities? The bottom line: a relationship is not everything.

I would not join an undateable club, its not the same as a I dont want to date club or dating is not for me club. Its very victimish and negative. Often I feel unlovable but i would never make a big statement about it as its so reinforceing and a downer.

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02 Mar 2011, 5:29 pm

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02 Mar 2011, 5:51 pm

your criteria don't really fit the 'Un-datable' people.

The people who really deserve the undatable title (lol) are :

- Over 25 years old
-Never had a date before.
-Never been in any form or kind of a relationship
-Virgin or only had sex with prostitutes or drunk people.
-Trying to date but in vain

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02 Mar 2011, 6:15 pm

Everyone is datable.

The problem is you can't find your matches. This should be "Can't find your match club".

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02 Mar 2011, 6:19 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I would think it more along the lines of someone being fat, or poor- specific qualities that are often cause for de facto rejection,
as opposed to predictive qualities of future failure based on past failure.

For instance, I've been in long-term relationships without exception from when I was 12 until a few years ago,
several of those being sexual partners, and I'm only 22.

However, my current prospects (no job, no school) looks, and dysfunction resultant of my Aspergers I would imagine make me undateable,
regardless of past success with a few select people.

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02 Mar 2011, 6:51 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Wonderful. According to that list, I fit into that category. Although I don't know if I'm trying in vain or not.

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02 Mar 2011, 7:18 pm

Kaybee wrote:

What a cute little guy

I wanna kiss him right on the nose

My cat hates me doing that but I do it anyway

I mean that's what furballs are for, right?

They shouldn't be so cute if they don't want kissing and tickling

How are we supposed to resist the temptation?

My cat's called Jess

This is now the Cat Thread 2011

Here's Jess

Everybody say HI JESS

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