Male fashion and style of dress feedback?

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I like to think I'm doing pretty good for myself, but would still like feedback on how I look in each pic, how well some of the styles fit me, and how I come across in each style.

My regular style of dress is my profile picture. Here is a bigger size of it:

http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=bbi ... h4l5k2TGxc

Keep in mind the picture is a few months old, and was taken at night when the lighting in my room is not so good.

I've done some research and found a few other styles I'd like, but some feedback would be good. I'll show some pics of some styles I like, and my attempts at copying or imitating some of them:

1. Nate Reuss - Suit, dress pants and dress shirt. http://www3.pictures.zimbio.com/gi/Nate ... Da3uTl.jpg

Me: http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... h4l5k2TGxc
http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... tpAAox97h4

2. Man with casual dress shirt and dress pants or jeans: https://www.google.com.au/imgres?imgurl ... MwgcKAAwAA
https://www.google.com.au/imgres?imgurl ... Mwg7KBQwFA

Me: http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... h4l5k2TGxc
http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... h4l5k2TGxc

3. Jason Mraz - I'm Yours music video: https://i.ytimg.com/vi/3undoxJ1F8M/hqdefault.jpg
https://www.google.com.au/search?q=jaso ... N1D60lM%3A

Me: http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... h4l5k2TGxc
http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... tpAlYx97h4
http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... h4l5k2TGxc

4. Regular style/normal 1: http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... h4l5k2TGxc

5. Regular style/normal 2: http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=uW4 ... h4l5k2TGxc

So, a few questions:

1. Which styles do you think fit me the best? Which ones are not so good? Which ones need to be changed/altered? How/why?

2. I often seem to come across as a 'bro'. This usually means I attract the 'bro' males for friendship and the females they usually hang out with for my looks. I try to talk to these females, but I find no sort of compatibility. It's very frustrating as the people I actually want to befriend or attract, the nerdy, geeky type people, or 'hippy' type people, rarely give me attention and never give me the time of day. Do I come across as a 'bro' in some of my pics, and why do you think this is?

Bro = the kind of guy who likes drinking, party animal, laidback, clubbing, working out in the gym, surf/beach, etc.

I am a bit of a bro anyway, but it seems that's ONLY how I come across to others most of the time, no matter how I dress. I like to be friends with other bro's, I'm an ambivert and okay with a bit of drinking and partying and clubbing, I do work out, but I can't for the life of me date the shallow, uptight, 'boring'/no interests women they hang out with. For lack of a better word, we'll call them 'divas'.

EDIT: Broken links, fixing now.

I like this! You have a good taste in a clothing, style!

I too loved your dressing sense. It is really good.

The style of sunglasses make you look very bro-ish, in my opinion.
(If bro-ish is indeed a word).
I think you need a more classic style.

The outfit with the grey overshirt/jacket also makes you look bro-ish - like a character from GTA.

The others are ok.

Except for the diamond vest.
Please burn that.

Is it me or is is quite hard to pull of men's fashion with colour. Even some super confident men still can't pull it off.

There is a UK Conservative (use to be to the right of the party, but has softened somewhat and is more classical liberal now) ex-Minister called Michel Portillo and he is renowned to wearing brightly coloured blazers shirts and trousers

See

https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=micha ... =isch&sa=X
https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=micha ... =isch&sa=X

He does popular BBC show about railway journeys, he is usually way more colourful then the people the interviews. Somehow he pulls it off.

There was a fashion for men wearing pink and salmon shirts are while back.

Anyway to the OP, I'm no expert on men fashion, however they must be some line between "crinkle clique" and the need to iron. Maybe someone will

I know that linen suits are meant to be crinkled as it is near impossible to have them crinkled.

Hm, I can see how I might look like a GTA character.

I don't look like a 'bro' in the Jason Mraz copycat pics? Thought I would have...

So the vest will *never* look good then?

Lol, all the feedback I've gotten from it has been negative. Even if in my recent new profile pic it fits better as I've grown in size, it's in better lighting, and with better matching clothes/jeans (regular style/normal 1)

What's so bad about it?

Yeah, I get it, nerds/neckbeards have killed the sweater vest, along with ruining fedoras as well. Any other reasons?

"Is it me or is is quite hard to pull of men's fashion with colour. Even some super confident men still can't pull it off."

Agreed. I thought my stuff wasn't too colorful though. White, black, grey, tan, and navy blue.

Anyway to the OP, I'm no expert on men fashion, however they must be some line between "crinkle clique" and the need "to iron. Maybe someone will

I know that linen suits are meant to be crinkled as it is near impossible to have them crinkled."

Yeah, I've got to iron all the clothes.

You would look better clean-shaven.

What do YOU want to look like?

I'm just asking for advice, but only changing the ways I want to and finding the best ways to change.

In another thread, some feedback from another user already helped me find much better sunglasses, for instance.

I wouldn't want to be clean shaven. I look far too childish, and my head facial features and head are so round, whenever I'm clean shave AND my hair is short my head looks a bit like an egg.

The beard adds a certain rugged masculinity that I'm looking for. But I'll admit I'm overdue for a trim.

For senior dance, I looked a bit like this man, and even wore a similar suit:

https://www.google.com.au/search?q=pitb ... 0Wi_m6M%3A

I understand you're 17. I was 17, too, and thought similar to you.

It'll get better when you become less hung up on clothes. The girls who are worth more don't give a rats butt about your clothes--just make sure they fit well, and are clean.

How about a more sporty look?

Do you think your style suits your personality? If so, then you shouldn't worry about it.

Your clothes do come across as being very bro-ish and preppy to me, which may attract more superficial groups of people. I think when people are in their teens their style can be more extreme and then gradually it mellows (and possibly changes) as they grow into adulthood. It's part of that whole 'finding yourself' and becoming comfortable with yourself, phase.

You mentioned colors (over neutrals) being part of the problem with some of the looks, but I think it actually comes down to the types of items and how they are worn. For instance, if a muscular guy wears a white dress shirt that's too fitted, with the collar sticking up, he's going to send a much different message than a guy who wears it the intended way.

In terms of the 'style inspiration pictures' you included, here are my thoughts:
1) Not bad (though his hair seems overly styled for my taste)
2) I don't like the short-sleeved dress shirt. It ends up looking either douchey or per-pubescent.
3) Based on his look, this guy strikes me someone who's trying very hard to appear laid-back/down-to-earth, but isn't fooling anyone.

But again, all that should matter is that you like the way you dress.

"Do you think your style suits your personality? If so, then you shouldn't worry about it."

Yeah, they do. It's how I enjoy dressing, I think I look and feel good when I took each pic. It's 'me' more than anything else.

"Your clothes do come across as being very bro-ish and preppy to me, which may attract more superficial groups of people. I think when people are in their teens their style can be more extreme and then gradually it mellows (and possibly changes) as they grow into adulthood. It's part of that whole 'finding yourself' and becoming comfortable with yourself, phase."

I agree, especially about the superficial people part.

I'm figuring out what I like wearing and what makes me feel good-looking and confident, but want to actually befriend more plain and average males and females, not the super-attractive types who (usually) have boring or non-ideal personalities.

That's me generalizing and stereotyping, but something in my experiences I've found to often be true, at least among the one's I've met.

I just recently got attention from a 15 year old part-time model, chatted her up a bit online, and managed to ask her out on a date if she's ever in town. She could have said yes just to get me off her back, but still, it's the principle.

Her hobbies/interests? 'Part-time modeling, cooking, coloring in, listening to rap music.' Sounds alright, but not to my taste. Not sure what we could talk about without me having to fake interest to continue the polite small talk.

Anyway, like I said I'm happy befriending other bros, as long as it's not the rude, boisterous, racist, sexist, homophobic redneck one's in their pick-up truck or whatever but the more tolerant and intelligent ones.

I don't come across as the type that would get along with the racist/sexist/homophobic redneck ones, do I?

Just not interested in the 'divas'...

It's all a little ironic, how some find themselves too unattractive to attain attention from those 'out of their league' and I'm actually TOO attractive to seemingly get a passing look by 'average' people.

I still feel uncomfortably arrogant constantly referring to myself as very attractive, but I'm confident that I am good-looking, and the actual attention I get from others indicates this.

"You mentioned colors (over neutrals) being part of the problem with some of the looks, but I think it actually comes down to the types of items and how they are worn. For instance, if a muscular guy wears a white dress shirt that's too fitted, with the collar sticking up, he's going to send a much different message than a guy who wears it the intended way."

True.

"I understand you're 17. I was 17, too, and thought similar to you.

It'll get better when you become less hung up on clothes. The girls who are worth more don't give a rats butt about your clothes--just make sure they fit well, and are clean.

How about a more sporty look?"

I use to not care about clothing as much, but I want to dress how I want but still feel good-looking. Some of the suggestions I haven't liked, but some of it I agree with and think actually makes me look better. So I'm thinking for myself. Makes me feel more thoughtful about it all than just throwing whatever on. I only do that for situations where I'll only be out for a few minutes. I still care about comfort and practicality, as well, depending on the situation.

Sporty? Like what?

Like wearing sports jackets with chinos and button-down or polo shirts.

Or whatever you wear when you do sports.

Kids seem to like Ron Jon types of surfer clothes.

I like number two, but the shades have got to go.

It wouldn't occur to me to make assumptions that specific based on appearance alone, so I can't say either way. If anything, I would pull from previously collected data (based on experience with people of similar style) and make statistical predictions about what they could potentially be like as a person. But even then, I've come across many people who would defy the norms in this regard. Your downfall may be with people who have had negative dealings with similarly styled people.

That's noble of you. I usually am the opposite and formulate opinions based on how people present themselves.

As shallow and judgemental as it may be, I am usually correct in my assumptions as I humbly believe the majority of people present themselves how they want to be percieved by others.

The vast majority of people I may get to know, I assume their personalities by their chosen and am correct.

It's not like I instantly brush people off, though. I give them a chance, but am continually disappointed that, yes, the girl who looked like your typical shallow, uptight, boring girl who's only talent is modeling, is precisely that.

And that dude that looks like a mix between surfer, gym rat, bro and wigger, likes rap music, clubbing, surfing, and working out in the gym.

And that cute chick with the glasses, the relatively unfashionable clothes that look like she just threw on, and average/plain looks - yep.

I'm not talking about things we can't change, however, like height or naturally 'unattractive' or 'attractive' people. Just factors we can change, e.g. weight, hygiene, muscle tone, skin/hair, etc.

And there's always going to be exceptions....

I really don't know how I come across, except like I said starting to think it's just 'bro'.

Bro as in I look like the guy who'd like to go clubbing, hit a gym session, surf/beach all the time, driving a big pick-up truck blasting rap music on the speakers, etc.

I'm a bit of a bro, within limits, but it may be the only way I come across.

So, genuinely, to everyone who's seen the different pictures, how do I come across? What personality could you guess from me?

What do you mean? That people my age who get the wrong idea of me will be intimidated by me?

I discuss this in detail in another thread here: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=307499&p=7037101#p7037101

Anyway even if I'm happy with my style, I'm always looking to self-improve.

A lot of people present themselves as not having the time not having the time or the inclination to spend time shopping. I mean can't think of a less enjoyable experience.

Also some us have no clue how we appear.

However I can make the effort sometimes.

Holiday shirts are a thing of mine, I don't just mean t-shirts.

Otherwise I have mostly bought Jasper Conran, Moss, John Rocha, etc.