Online Dating

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Did online dating work out good for you people here? I don't know if I want to go back to online dating, I don't want to go to adult dating sites.

Try something like EHarmony. I know that costs money.

If you see a free dating site, make sure you write that you want a long-term relationship, and that you want to get to know a person first before any hanky-panky.

I have tried a number of online dating sites and I have begun to suspect that they are all a total con. It is not in their interest for you to find anyone because then you will stop paying them to help you find someone. The other problem is that online dating is great if you are successful and, in my opinion, completely soul crushing if you are not.

I was a member of Match dot com (spelled out this way as I don't want to provide a link to them as I don't recommend them) for a year and in that year, no one was interested. I may not be Brad Pitt but I am not a bad looking guy and I have normal interests and yet in a year, no one wanted to meet me. Hell, my confidence was bad enough before signing up to Match.

I cannot advise you on the best way to meet someone because I have almost always been single and probably always will be but I would not put too much faith in dating sites.

A friend of mine kept meeting people who were totally wrong for him on a dating site and he started to suspect that they wanted him to go on dates but not to find Miss Right who would take away their customer. He totally changed his description of what he was looking for, describing someone totally wrong for him. The next woman he was introduced to he has now been together with for 4 years. Could be a coincidence but I'm not so sure.

I tried lots of online dating sites but I had no luck at all on them. I have lots things limiting me besides my Aspergers thou & I was upfront about that on my profiles. I met the 3 girlfriends I had on forums; the 2nd & current were on this forum but I posted aLOT.

On dating sites, I did really really like the attention from men & that can make me very happy. I was on eHarmony for a long time, I had bad luck there. Maybe I should try dating sites again, I should do something to get over this guy.

Online dating is for pitiful losers. Hard to think of anything more embarrassing than resorting to them to find a partner.

No,no it's not. There was a time when that might have been the case and you do get the occasional profile that is sad, but the most part it is no more embarrassing than going to a singles bar, and hey at least you are upfront about what you want.
Here in norcal men seem to outnumber women about 5 to 1 due to the tech industry and that number seems to be almost double for online dating sites. It is hard for road....for a man. It seemed like a total meat market, and I am no Brad Pitt and physical appearance is 90 percent of why woman will pick up an email from a stranger. I had the best luck on eharmony. I think that was because the woman were more serious about settling down.
Yea, as man, on line dating does wonders for one's self esteem.
So Kitty, you will get attention if you post, I can almost promise you.

Maybe I didn't get too many men, cuz I didn't talk too much.

Online dating presents different challenges for men and women. For both it's all about managing expectations. As a woman you're going to be bombarded with messages from guys that just want their leg over so you need to be able to sort the wheat from the chaff. As a man you have to accept that 99% of your messages will go unanswered.

So don't go into it with high expectations and you'll be ok. I met my current girlfriend through online dating, and over all I've met pretty much most of my girlfriends online, not necessarily dating sites but general forums for things I'm interested in.

I met my boyfriend on Okcupid, so yeah I'd say it worked out pretty well for me I think it also helps that I live in a largish city area so plenty of active people of various demographics that where close enough to meet in person.

But yeah I was kind of getting to the point I figured I was only going to get guys leading me on or very short term relationships out of the site...so I cannot say it wasn't without much frustration.

I want to try online dating, but maybe I should completely get over the guy first from coffee house, I went into the coffee place today, I wanted to get a drink that will help with my health problem, I got nervous & walked out of there when I saw the guy.

A news report just now said that scammers are targeting people on dating sites more often than businesses. They usually operate from outside the USA, and try to establish a relationship right away, then convince their targets to send money (most scammers seem to have multiple targets).

First, it's for a plane ticket. Then there are unforeseen fees for visas and passports. Suddenly, there is a sick relative that needed the money instead, and "... can you send a little more? My government won't let me leave the country until I've paid off my tuition."

And on and on ... until the target either wises up or runs out of money.

You could try one of the sites specifically for those on the spectrum, they might prove helpful.

Some people on this forum have checked them out I believe. Looking back a few pages on this subforum .... yeah there's this thread: viewtopic.php?t=304673

Maybe try the free dating site linked in that post.

I don't see how people can be in a relationship before they meet in person to begin with, let alone close enough of one to where they would send them money.