Asking her out tomorrow

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I'm asking out a girl tomorrow; I'm going to first request that she have lunch with me, then ask her on a date afterward, which will be walking in the woods. Does this sound good?

How well do you know her already? If you aren't already fairly good friends, I wouldn't ask her on a date in the woods...I think that most people would be uncomfortable walking in the woods with someone they don't know very well.

And one more thing: should I call it a date?

You have to tell us how it went.

Regardless of outcome, we can be your cheerleaders when you win and your shoulders to cry on when you lose.

Even asking her to grab a coffee would probably work well. Just keep it casual, you'll do great.

Lunch wouldn't be a date? Or do you work together so its taking a break together?

Yeah, unless it's something commonly done where you are, I wouldn't ask her to go into the woods. That kind of reminds me of SVU or Criminal Minds or something. But I'm not there and don't know y'all.

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And in the woods you find an old well.....

I think it went great guys! I asked her to lunch, which is really common to do at the school I'm at, and she said yes. She seemed to take an interest in what I was saying, although she seems a bit shy, as she was looking to the side sometimes. Afterward, I asked her to coffee, and she said that her schedule is really busy, but that I should send her a FB message and she'll see if she can make it. As such, I think it was a success.

- Looking at sides during the "date" is a bad sign, it typically means she is feeling embarrassed, it can mean that she doesn't want to be seen with you by her friends or ppl she knows for whatever reason, this is a very typical behavior of being embarrassed; not to be confused with signs of shyness (which is manifested by looking downward, or avoiding eye contact, but not looking at sides).
- Saying she is busy without rescheduling is a bad sign too.
- Asking you to send her a FB message sounds a good sign, it could be way better if it was a text message (I assume she never gave you her phone number?).

So there's a hope but don't get it too high, please.

Boo even if you are right, it is not good idea to pre-empt a result from so little information. In fact such thinking is common in social anxiety.

I forgot to mention, she said that lunch was "great," and seemed very happy at the prospect of spending more time with me. I think she gets nervous easily, that's why she was looking to the side. And I never gave her a specific time for coffee, just said that sometime in the coming days would be good.