Involuntary Celibacy

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How many of you?

Wikipedia: Involuntary Celibacy

Nope, I have been very lucky in this category. I had a rather long dry spell from 2005-2006, but I have been rather fortunate when it comes to meeting women who understand me. The quirky/weird stuff seems to not be so bad when the woman can see the goodness inside. I actually started younger than most when it came to sex.

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I believe it's called Smellibacy if it's involountary.

I am the number one candidate.

I have had over a decade of unrequited love total for two different girls, one for most of my early 20's. What a waste of time that was! The thing about it was that she showed all of the signs of interest for me, in the early parts of my failure to have a relationship with her. She would laugh with me, talk with me among friends, and even touch my arm etc... I just never made a move of any kind. This was due to my extreme love shyness. Eventually, she got frustrated and fed up with me, and married someone else just to get me to leave her alone. Very sad situation. I don't know why I couldn't express my feelings or talk to her about it. I even asked if she hated me several times, and with sadness in her eyes and voice, she said "no, I don't hate you." To this day it still hurts deeply.

When I was 15-16 there was a girl I cared for very much we always hung out and I knew she kinda liked me but never said so...even though everyone thought we were a couple...after awile she stopped talking to me and it broke my heart-I haven't tried with women since I have been very unlucky when it comes to girls-they want nothing to do with me and it makes me so sad

I shouldn't laugh.

I've never heard that..... How did it come to be called Smellibacy?

Because you smell so bad that no one wants to be in contact with you.

Yes. How about you Wildman?
If i lived in Vegas, then i would not go for so long.
Whatever goes on in Vegas, stays in Vegas.
They don't look at you like a weirdo there.
So long as you got $

The money part is the only truth in your statement there. The women here are very self centered and care about looks and money. The only people I get along with out here, especially women, are the ones that moved from the east coast.

Yeah, for sure.
I know there's a big difference between being a local and being a tourist.
As far as being incel ( that's a horrid word, like 'aspie')....
If you are in Vegas, take a trip downtown or to the strip, have a modest amount money to spare, gamble a bit, have a few drinks, get laid. It's a successful night out, make a weekend of it ( no friends required).
You don't get that in most places.

But for more than that.. sure, women like looks and money (much more than that too; status and such-like) everywhere. In Vegas, i guess they are better at it.

I'm from the UK: i don't know the difference in politics of east coast / west coast. I have stayed in Vegas ( the only place in the US i have been to.) It's a fabulous place, im sure i will spend some time there in the future.

As far as Incel goes.
I would never be Incel in Vegas. Nothing to do with ethics or morals; just easier.

I have never had a boyfriend/date in my life and never had anyone even interested in me- but am so clean I'm almost OCD so I can't envisage that its personal hygiene that's the issue, rather my love of the history of the Mafia or something.
I dress smartly and I'd profess to be fairly wealthy, but no one's interested - must be the L98 (semi) liscence or the fact my surname's Falconie...oh and combined with the fact I'm female....oh yes, I also have batter moral values with reagards to love and marriage than many...

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I don't think it is as clear cut as involuntary but certainly not voluntary either. I think I used to think that. I've realise a lot of was with me. I've pre-empted rejection, and also not know how to handle the situation even when they are obvious to some. Also everyone is picky to some degree. We all have preferences. I realised there was a natural order of things. Like understanding friendship before relationships.

I'm what you could call "free-cel", meaning celibate when it comes to free sex. I've had a number of times so far in my life: five times with an escort, one time for free, and that was with someone I wasn't attracted to (escorts, on the other hand, were hot). I'm planning to see an escort again sometime in the next month or two, since no girl I'd actually like would even look at me. Although I'm not proud of having to pay for it, it's better than being incel, in my opinion.

Involuntarily celibate. Aka rejected so many times? Yup.

yeah I know that