Explaining ASD to my NT boyfriend

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I've been making slow progress, but I often find it hard to explain the differences in people on the spectrum. He tries to help me, but the help doesn't always apply. Like I don't want to make more friends. I'm ftm trans and autistic so I find friends to be painful and stressful to maintain. I don't know how to tell him that without him blaming my friends as being bad friends. He says I need more life goals too, because he's my special interest and so all I can say is that I want to attain him and have a family, but I just can't care about anything else until I feel settled in and accomplished in this first. Any ideas what to tell him, and any advice people would give an NT man dating an autist? I might just show him this thread if I get some good responses. I really want to work hard to make this relationship work out between us, and I have to much trouble trying to communicate and understand each other.

NT's tend to get scared when they become a "special interest" to someone else.

Otherwise, I'm thinking maybe you should show him some of Tony Attwood's works.

Yeah, I noticed him seeming torn over it. He said it was nice having someone obsessed, but he said it wasn't healthy for me. I'll look that up though, thanks.