Have you ever dated or been in relationship before?

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When I was growing up, I never dated nor been in a relationship before. Quite frankly, if someone asked me did I ever get a girlfriend, I'd most likely say "no" and then they would say "naw, you did, you're just shy to admit it or you're lying" or things along those lines.

Personally, in the past I really wanted to date or get into a relationship, but after college and seeing some of the NT's out there with their dating experiences, I find that to be very overrated and comes with it's own set of problems. I follow the saying of "being in a good relationship is awesome and an experience like none other, but being in a bad relationship is like a living hell," which to me that means that I would rather be a good relationship than I bad relationship, but not being in any relationship sure as hell beats being in a bad one.

A mini-story just for reference: I once had a roommate (an NT) a few years ago and he was with his fiance (also NT) of 4 years and things were going well. However, one day down the road things started to deteriorate and both he and his fiance decided to part ways and they both broke up afterwards (communication, commitment issues and the like). Then afterwards, it was hard for him and her as I recall that he was very emotional and deflated when approaching things (while his composure was there, I suddenly felt that he was really sad). I just can't imagine how I'd fare in that situation, also given that I have trust issues as well as taking it even more personally. If it was hard enough for an NT just imagine the difficulty for an Aspie. (now not all Aspie's are the same nor are NT's, but still.)

So as of now, I've always been single and don't really look to get into a romantic relationship since I have other life goals that I would like to achieve, and that platonic relationships with some physical affection here and there is more than satisfying for me.

Does anyone share the same sentiments as I or what are your thoughts on this?

Thank you for sharing.

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I wasn't in a relationship until I was 24. It was a long distance relationship with someone who I never met in person though.

It can be hard to trust people. It seems like a lot of people try to sabotage relationships and cheat on their SO.

I've been in two relationships, although they were both with the same person, so maybe it just counts as one. Each one lasted roughly six months. Neither time worked out. I didn't really have feelings for the person; I think I was just happy that someone was actually interested in me for whatever reason.

I don't feel a need to be in a relationship, but that doesn't necessarily mean it won't happen if I find the right person. I'm not looking though, and I doubt I ever will be.

Never been in a relationship or on a date. I want to more than anything in the world; it's the main cause of my depression.

Never anything official. Had a sort of relationship in my late teens, that was the last time I was ever kissed, but it wasn't a relationship.

There have been a couple of dates that went nowhere. But nope, no relationships.

I can't imagine ever having one now. I'm really depressed. Feels like there must be something inherently wrong with me that men really don't like. I don't know how to change that.

I'm 34. Can't say for sure whether any of the men I've been interested in have been on the spectrum.

so this will be kind of weird but, i am sort of in a relationship now (my first one) i think its going well, i don't know...ive actually been meaning to ask but he (yes im gay) is at uni so we talk on steam a lot more but currently he hasn't come online and im not sure if its because he doesn't like me anymore or he is just busy with coursework

I feel like a relationship is more likely to work out if you start off as friends and then unintentionally develop romantic feelings for one another, as opposed to deliberately dating a stranger and trying to build a romance from there.

It's one of the reasons I despise the whole concept of dating. I'd much rather develop a more natural relationship than try to force one.

No. I can talk to other people the like NTs do, but I don't really know how to ask someone to stay in contact with that person. If I try to ask someone that I usually look silly.

Not for real. I've had a couple of long distance things but never lasted more than a month.

I think that you can only have one good relationship, and that's a permanent one. Otherwise something wasn't good about it and there was a reason to end it (unless one of them died or moved far away).

I've been in 4 and none of them lasted more than a month.

I was in one relationship, it lasted 4 months.