I'm done with crushes forever

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Hello, everyone. After realizing that I'm not ready to have a boyfriend, I decided that I am giving up on crushes forever. I have many things to think about that is NOT a crush. Formally, I used to have crushes from the media and reality. I was desperate and being ridiculous. I'm not ready to have a boyfriend and, happy to say, I never will.

As long as you are happy with yourself!! ! . although you dont have to vow it to yourself to not have a crush, you could just say its lowest on your prorities and isnt what you want right now. Then again its your choice completely and im glad you are happy

Could you share how are you doing this?

By focusing on more important things, like school and work.

That makes sense. It's good to do constructive things.

I do hope you find somebody nice, though, in the future.

I don't really see the point of crushes anymore. I know it doesn't materialize into anything, so I don't really put any significance on them anymore. I used to in the past, when I had very fairy-tale-like look on love, but now that I'm older, I see things differently. That's helped me to put unrealistic feelings of attraction into perspective a lot easier now.

For the last few years I have been working full time and studying full time, but I still had time to feel lonely. I hope your need for love is lower than mine and you won't suffer.

I think she means celebrity crushes, like you adore them and they become your special interest and you read all you can about them and watch all the videos of them on YouTube and follow instagram accounts with photos of them and follow their twitter and so on.

That takes up time that can be used for better things. Especially due to the fact that the crush will never be reciprocated and will never be fulfilling.

I have a little celebrity crush on Peter Capaldi, but I'm a busy 34 year old, so it's not an obsession, I just think, hmm he's nice. I was following an instagram account and realised the poor lass who set it up had got to the point where she was following him round London taking candid photos. That's when it goes too far! I stopped following that account.

I'll disagree. Crushes are very fulfilling (at least if it isn't celebrity-crushes), so I'm never done with that. It's a pity they happen so seldom though.

It's good that you are keeping to constructive things to distract your mindset.

Like many, I hope you will find someone to be with and I hope that someone will make you happy.

Oh, that makes. Now that I've read this topic again I think it should be extended to other crushes too. For example, if you like your friend or, I don't know, a person seating next to you on a bus, let hem know. Most likely it won't work, but there's a chance it will grow into something. Isn't a small chance of a real relationship better than imaginary crush relationship?