Giddiness and Escalation around women

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Hello there everyone. I am lucky enough to have won the love lottery and am married to a wonderful woman. We have been together for 16 years now, and one issue keeps coming up. She keeps getting hurt (and angry) because she observes that I become "giddy" and "escalated" around other women. At the beginning of our relationship, she called it "flirting" and I would deny it. Now she trusts that I am not out to cheat on her, but she hates that other women keep getting the message that I am interested in them when that's not my intention at all. I can only go around pushing other people away just because they are women for so long, but that's the only thing I know how to do. I keep telling her I don't have good control of the messages I send other people, especially women, but it keeps hurting her. She called me the other day at work and was very angry when I got home. I had been training a female employee and she says she could tell a woman was there because my voice was different. Anyone else ever had this issue? Any ideas how to handle it would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks, ASHFAdude

She sounds overly jealous to me.

She should trust you more; you've earned 16 years of that trust.