I need help with a guy

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I want to tell a guy it's over, I stopped texting this guy & he won't leave me alone. What to say to a guy to tell him it's over? I need help. I never done this before.

Stop texting people. Meet them and talk to them.

As for your immediate concern, understand that people are not computers. You don't flip the "OFF" switch and everything just stops. So what happened?

I've been that guy (perhaps still am, spooky), and I can tell you that there is a reason for that. Is he autistic? What's he saying, what is he trying to accomplish?

Honesty is best. Be clear and concise and tell him that you are sorry but you are not interested. Then be clear you want him to stop messaging you.

If he doesn't stop you can block his number

Time to wear a wig, put on a mask, assume a new identity, move, change phone-numbers, switch to a different e-mail address, put on additional redundant disguises, change your name, exchage your Social-Security Number with a new one, only speak in a Foreign-Language and/or Accent from here onwards, and basically make it impossible for him or anybody else to recognise you for being the old you. Yup, I know, I am awesome !

Tell him flat-out.
In person is the best way, a phonecall is second best, if you are afraid of him.
Dont tell him this over text though, have the decency of using your voice.

If, after explicitly telling him that it is over, he still agressively tries to contact you, file a harassment claim; men need to be able to accept a loss

The best thing is to see him in person in a quiet place that's in public. A quiet cafe or coffee shop, for example. It will be uncomfortable, but if you have been seeing them for a while, that's for the best. Be firm that it's over. But be kind. If he asks you why, say the kindest thing possible. "I don't see a future for us..." "I feel I need more time on my own" etc. Do not go into a catalogue of his faults. It's not helpful.

If you have the slightest concern for your safety - don't meet him. You don't owe anyone your personal safety.

If you have only been seeing him a couple of times, I think it's perfectly ok to text that it's over. I don't know how long you have been seeing him or how close a relationship it was. For example if it was a txt only relationship, you don't have to meet up with him.

What's not good is just fading away. He obviously isn't getting the message from that anyway.

Hmm, that doesn't really sound like the kindest thing possible, but rather lazy excuses. I don't know him but I would just say that I'm not interested maybe.

You have to tell the guy the truth. Otherwise, he will keep texting you.

What turned you off to this guy, anyway.

You seemed to like him quite a bit.

I can't tell him in person, he's in the army.

Tell him by whatever method you use to communicate with him

I emailed him & now he's begging me to come back to him.

Ignore him. Do not feed into it.

What happened that turned you off to the guy? You seemed to have liked him; you were thrilled with the situation.

I don't want to talk.

That's okay. It's a private matter.

I emailed & told him the truth, he emailed me back asking me for my phone number & he is very obsess with me.