Do you think was a ploy on her part?

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I remember in college I fancied this girl in my media class and I probably did make it obvious that I liked her. One day in college I was doing some filming with a class friend and I saw my 'crush' leave one of her lessons with what appeared to be her boyfriend. Besides being disappointed to learn she was 'taken' I remember her partner looked at me whilst walking with his arm around her shoulder. And yes as you can imagine he was the opposite to me 'tall and mean looking'.


Do you think perhaps that was some kind of ploy on her part to put me off chasing after her?

Maybe.

It was a long time ago.

It's very unlikely she would get into a fake or unwanted relationship with someone to stop you chasing her when she didn't even know you liked her and a simple "I'm not interested" would put an and to any advances you may make anyway. I think it's far more likely that the simplest solution is best, that she simply prefers tall guys and get into a relationship with that guy because he was her type.

She knew already got the hints that I liked her before I saw her with her boyfriend.

I remember actually (before that incident) straight after one of our classes I tried to talk with her when we were walking down the corridor but she then made an excuse to avoid hanging out with me by going into the girls restroom.

Back then in 2006 I used to walk with a more odd gait than I do now making my disability more visible. A girl with her social status would feel embarrassed being associated with someone like me probably cause of the stigma of developmental disabilities etc


I am guessing even if I was neurotypical it would have been VERY difficult for me to get any type of romantic relationship with her. However throw developmental disability into the picture and its impossible.

She was probably not using a ploy. The guy might have known about your affection for her, though, and could have been checking your reaction. That doesn't mean he was nefarious either. He could have been just curious. Doesn't make it sting any less.