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Kcihtred2
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01 May 2007, 1:22 pm

how do i get a girls number from some one i knew a long time ago and now the only times i see her are online in myspace?


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01 May 2007, 1:26 pm

Email her on myspace, and ask her for her number?



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01 May 2007, 1:28 pm

duh, but is that seen as desperate?


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01 May 2007, 2:56 pm

No, not desperate. Just make it a little reunion; tell her, 'Wow, I haven't seen you in a long time! We should get together sometime, or you should give me a call or something!' and give her your number. She might not respond, in which case she's probably not interested in getting together, but she also might call you, or give you her number, or make plans with you.



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01 May 2007, 2:59 pm

I agree, give YOUR number, don't ask for hers. That puts the ball in her court, she can call or not call. Maybe make up something too like "I would love to catch up with you over the phone" or "We should hook up sometime for coffee" is appropreate.



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01 May 2007, 3:13 pm

EarthCalling wrote:
I agree, give YOUR number, don't ask for hers. That puts the ball in her court, she can call or not call. Maybe make up something too like "I would love to catch up with you over the phone" or "We should hook up sometime for coffee" is appropreate.


Women and taking the innitiative ?
I'm sorry to say but it's unlikely women take the innitiative.
Theyr used to laying back and waiting to get hit on.



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01 May 2007, 5:55 pm

desperate?

YEAH! that's mucho mas desperato.


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01 May 2007, 8:31 pm

Kcihtred2 wrote:
duh, but is that seen as desperate?


Yeah. But so what? I see initiating contact as desperate
to begin with. You aren't going to get anywhere if you
don't try.



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02 May 2007, 12:37 am

calandale wrote:
Kcihtred2 wrote:
duh, but is that seen as desperate?


Yeah. But so what? I see initiating contact as desperate
to begin with. You aren't going to get anywhere if you
don't try.


initiating contact as desperate. huh. you say that, but what you're really saying is that you've tried too many times and you've been burned. but I agree with it.


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02 May 2007, 12:59 am

Always saw it that way.
Tried a couple of times.
Once in HS, where
I was chasing the most
popular girl, of course,
that wasn't going to work.

Another time, and the
ONLY time that I've been
on a 'date,' with a cute,
but somewhat fruity girl.
Convinced me never to
go out with someone
whom I haven't had
sex with already.

On the other hand,
I am preparing my-
self to actually try
and draw someone
in soon, but not
entirely unconventional
means. She initiated,
but she seems worth
putting a bit of effort
into catching.



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02 May 2007, 5:49 am

calandale wrote:
Always saw it that way.
Tried a couple of times.
Once in HS, where
I was chasing the most
popular girl, of course,
that wasn't going to work.

Another time, and the
ONLY time that I've been
on a 'date,' with a cute,
but somewhat fruity girl.
Convinced me never to
go out with someone
whom I haven't had
sex with already.

On the other hand,
I am preparing my-
self to actually try
and draw someone
in soon, but not
entirely unconventional
means. She initiated,
but she seems worth
putting a bit of effort
into catching.


*off topic*

Calandale, I like your short
lines it makes it more
readable :)



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06 May 2007, 1:09 pm

Do you have anyone else who could make the initial contact with her, to let her know you are interested in getting to know her.



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06 May 2007, 1:33 pm

Bart21 wrote:
Women and taking the innitiative ?
I'm sorry to say but it's unlikely women take the innitiative.
Theyr used to laying back and waiting to get hit on.


It does happen. Maybe not as frequently as the opposite direction, but it isn't one of these extreme rarities. More than that, how is giving out one's number not taking the initiative? Asking for a number isn't any different than giving a number and asking for a call. Either way, if she isn't interested, she won't respond, or she'll respond in the negative.



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06 May 2007, 9:58 pm

shadexiii wrote:
Bart21 wrote:
Women and taking the innitiative ?
I'm sorry to say but it's unlikely women take the innitiative.
Theyr used to laying back and waiting to get hit on.


It does happen.


It certainly does. I wouldn't have a chance in hell
otherwise. Moreover, it happens more than we likely
notice. They start conversations - and expect us to take
the next step, or something similar.