How the hell do guys like this get girls?

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Why are so many women attracted to overconfident, explosive-tempered, sex-obsessed, morbidly obese guys in wife beaters? I know a guy who fits that description, and according to him, he gets more girls than anyone else. Seriously, WTF?

Just repeat this part several times in your mind and ask yourself if your leg is being pulled...

([Note] Pulling Your Leg : I should probably clarify this idiom/metaphor before anybody reads it literally... this is a reference to being taken for a ride, basically meaning, that you are being deceived intentionally, believing in exaggerations just because they think that you are gullible enough to believe anything that they say)

Personally I've never met a girl who was attracted to a guy like that. (I don't count coz I'm lesbian...) He may be trying to talk himself up.

I don't buy it either. A lot of guys talk big and they very often lie.

Are they? Then we need to find out the answers.

What the....

"according to him"
Oh, everything makes sense now =)

I try to stay away from those kinds of people like the plague. Even if they were interested, I don't think arrogance is attractive at all.

Most girls and women wouldn't go for that sort of guy.

If they do, they might have a problem themselves.

They're good looking and smooth talking enough to conceal their real self long enough to get girls

Sounds like a complete turn off to me

If the girls are than they are silly

If the smooth talking is used as a way to manipulate others into thinking that they are nice when they're really not then that is off putting too imo.

Depending on how they were raised, the environment they grew up in, whether they have low self-esteem, these are some of the factors that may play a role in determining what sorts of relationships males and females end up having. For example, my professor told us a story of this one female who was admitted for attempted suicide, and the professor had to evaluate her before discharging her from the psych ward. The patient grew up in an abusive household, and was currently in a relationship with a guy who was verbally abusive, and possibly physically abusive (I don't remember). When my professor asked her if she plans to go back to her boyfriend's place, the patient said that although she knows that he treats her horribly, she still loves him. My professor commented that the patient had good insight, but poor judgement.

You don't know thoug. Those guys and people are very good at putting on a show. It'll be weeks or months into a relationship before they drop the lie and be themselves.

My ex friend is good at that.

Most people like that seem to have a certain type of speech though. They pronounce their words very well and never seem to stutter or make any pauses at all. I don't mean to say all smooth talkers are like that, but it's something that I notice in those kinds of people.

Because you falsely assume one's attractiveness level or how good or bad their personality is actually has any sort of influence on one's likelihood of dating success.

The reality is in many cases this is not actually the case whatsoever.

Working hard to have an attractive and fit body and friendly, confident, social personality all increase your chances but do not guarantee or even make success very likely at all.

In my observations it seems for every happy, friendly, healthy, confident, kind, selfless, hardworking pair in relationships, there are two pairs of rude, selfish, greedy, unhealthy, unattractive, lazy people in successful and happy relationships.

This is the reason 'nice guys' tend to get so angry and frustrated when they're rejected.

They actually believe dating is a logical process! That you get out what you put in, you reap what you sow, cause and effect!

When the truth is relationships seem almost completely and absolutely random and by chance and some ugly rude slob who put no effort into even making friends can have plenty of friends and enter happy relationship after happy relationship their entire life while a fit happy friendly person can spend 5 decades searching extremely hard trying everything to meet men and women to date or be friends with and yet still be chronically single and miserably lonely and friendless.

Everyone has different tastes and likes different things, so if you're basically an average, normal guy, you're equal in attractiveness and chance to that fat ugly rude slob, no matter how much further down the self-improvement path you may be.

But, to be 'optimistic' about it, perhaps improving yourself as a person may see an improvement in the attractiveness of the looks and personalities of the women who give you attention. But that's not guaranteed or even likely either.

Last edited by Outrider on 24 May 2016, 12:19 am, edited 1 time in total.

Any girls that goes for that kind of guy I guarantee you is a Drama-Magnet. Now, just for the hell of posting a non-drama option, I have a video-clip to post with a quote of a comment that was made in response...