Does she like me?

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I have been going to an acting class once a week for a couple of weeks now and i have a suspision that a girl in the class might have a crush or is attracted to me. I'm going to describe what i experienced as well as i can and please tell me what you think.

The first time i really took notice of her was not the first lesson but one or two lessons later. The beginning of that lesson (after the class was broken into two groups btw) her and i had eye contact, she smiled and i smiled back. Later on after the class ended, i walked around the building back to the parking lot and she walks right behind and then catches up to me at the split point between the parking lot and the train station and she asks me if i came by car, i say yes before we say goodbye to each other.

The next time we also exchange eye contact and smiles at least twice and after the class we walked together to the parking lot, she initiated conversation right after walking out of there.

The third time, we exchanged eye contact and smiles 3 times to my recollection. The first of those should have felt awkward as i attemted to get eye contact. It was extended and instead of it getting awkward, i get a smiled and an hello. I felt good and she didn't seem to mind. Later on, i was standing and watching the other act, after looking around, i noticed that she had gotten up from her seat and walked closer to me. We looked at each other quickly before shifting my attention to my classmates act. Later, right before the end of the class, she walks up to me to ask if she is missing a page of the play and wanted to compare it to mine. She was talking Kinda rushed and under her breath so i didn't comprehend everything she was saying after a moment or two she says "we have the same pages" and then rushed of to the entrance. I stay for abou 2 minutes before going as well, to my suprise she is still there looking at her phone, fully outdoor dressed looking like she is about to get out. I go to the bathroom to wash myself an when i go out and passed to the status she starts to walk out as well. I stop to yell goodbye to the teacher and instead of walking past me, she stops as well. Couldn't tell if she said bye as well or was silent but she and i walked to the parking lot again and politely talking to each other before getting to our cars. That was the latest time we saw each other.

What do you think? That was all that i noticed.

Is she into me?
Is she just trying to make a friend?
Is it just in my head?
And if she is into me what do i do?

[EDIT]
Just in case anyone is wondering, i don't consider myself to be attractive. I'm a fat, awkward aspie, not charming and is a bit shy.
She is thin with long brown hair and with a kinda large nose (wich is not necesserily unattractive) and a bit shorter than me.

Last edited by Molin on 09 Apr 2016, 7:05 pm, edited 2 times in total.

I think yes she does. Maybe ask her if she would like to go for a coffee after class next time?

Definitely interested.

I'm not great at this, but honestly I think she is interested, is trying to suss out if you're interested, and if you like her you should try asking her out.

Or you could ask her if she has a boyfriend. If she says she does, either she really does, or she's telling you she does because you misread her interested and she doesn't want you to ask her out.

But I do think she's trying to get your attention and is waiting for you to take the plunge.

So you think that after the lesson i should just ask her: "Do you have a boyfriend?" then what?

Given what has happened up to now, I think that is a bad idea. More like continue a while longer with what you do, and then if she continues to reciprocate, you might try to talk to her. Asking her if she has a boyfriend isn't a good idea. If she had, she wouldn't show you much interest.

Sure but for how long, the last lesson was number 6 of 10. Should i try talking to her during the lesson or only afterwards? And what exactly can i say to show interes when the time comes?

It does indeed sound like she is interested in you. I have been in two situations where a girl has appeared to show interest in me, and I made the mistake of letting my social anxiety get the better of me by avoiding them until I had a good plan and it was the right moment to flirt back, which never happened. Don't make the same mistakes I did.

Can't you setup to meet her at some other place after the lessons are done? That seems to be your primary priority right now.

Sure i probably could, i just wonder how i whould suggest it and where i would meet her if she says yes.

You're thinking too much and taking too long, if you don't make some sort of move soon she will lose interest. Just muster up all the confidence you've got, go up to her and ask her to have coffee or something. If that goes well ask her on a legitimate date, such as dinner or an activity. Make sure you say "date" and don't hem around the issue. Personally, from what you've said I think she's into you-- but one never knows with these things, it could just be friendly flirtation. If it is just flirtation, don't take it hard, and certainly don't feel bad-- everyone here seems to agree that she's legitimate too, so if she isn't we all got duped. Also, if she is just playing games it's better to find out early than waste a lot of time and emotion on something that isn't even real.

Thanks for the advice, ill do my best. I have had social anxiety for such a long time and i really need to break that cycle.

I can tell it's suppose to be funny. Are you telling me that it's obvious that she's into me?

That will be up to you to figure out.

Also, don't limit yourself to discussing a place verbally. Sometimes it's possible to setup these things without talking, especially if you are at the same school.

I'll just disagree with that. That's not likely to happen here.