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24 Jun 2016, 7:50 am

The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man's Quest to Be a Better Husband

This book describes how one Aspie hooked up with a hot girl--start out in the friend zone, become a trusted friend, and get romantically involved in a rebound relationship.

This actually makes a lot of sense for other Aspies, if you must hook up with someone who is hot. Starting out in the friend zone is your only real chance, unless you are hot, wealthy, or have some totally awesome talent. Being in the friend zone at least gives you some access to the person you desire--this gives you the chance to study and learn all about the other person without being a stalker. Ideally, you will become trusted close friends who know each others' quirks, and can escalate the relationship should the opportunity arise.



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24 Jun 2016, 10:53 am

There are better alternatives. The most promising is to target hot ND girls. Many of those do not care about the typical NT-standards, and if you can trigger her ND courtship traits, this will trigger her interest in you, and give you an advantage over the huge mass of NTs.



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24 Jun 2016, 11:35 am

rdos wrote:
There are better alternatives. The most promising is to target hot ND girls. Many of those do not care about the typical NT-standards, and if you can trigger her ND courtship traits, this will trigger her interest in you, and give you an advantage over the huge mass of NTs.


And what are these typical NT standards?


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24 Jun 2016, 11:43 am

nurseangela wrote:
rdos wrote:
There are better alternatives. The most promising is to target hot ND girls. Many of those do not care about the typical NT-standards, and if you can trigger her ND courtship traits, this will trigger her interest in you, and give you an advantage over the huge mass of NTs.


And what are these typical NT standards?


You are an NT so you should know. :lol:

It's things like selecting guys that are wealthy, famous or have power. To require potential mates to be socially competent and high in the hierarchy. Those are things that will bring happiness and attention to the hot NT girl.



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24 Jun 2016, 11:47 am

rdos wrote:
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rdos wrote:
There are better alternatives. The most promising is to target hot ND girls. Many of those do not care about the typical NT-standards, and if you can trigger her ND courtship traits, this will trigger her interest in you, and give you an advantage over the huge mass of NTs.


And what are these typical NT standards?


You are an NT so you should know. :lol:

It's things like selecting guys that are wealthy or have power. To require potential mates to be socially competent and high in the hierarchy. Those are things that will bring happiness and attention to the hot NT girl.


That's just a bunch of BS. Guys who say that I believe have a chip on their shoulder.


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24 Jun 2016, 11:50 am

nurseangela wrote:
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rdos wrote:
There are better alternatives. The most promising is to target hot ND girls. Many of those do not care about the typical NT-standards, and if you can trigger her ND courtship traits, this will trigger her interest in you, and give you an advantage over the huge mass of NTs.


And what are these typical NT standards?


You are an NT so you should know. :lol:

It's things like selecting guys that are wealthy or have power. To require potential mates to be socially competent and high in the hierarchy. Those are things that will bring happiness and attention to the hot NT girl.


That's just a bunch of BS. Guys who say that I believe have a chip on their shoulder.


You mean that the Hollywood housewives are not real? :mrgreen:

Regardless of "typical NT standards", if you are an ordinary looking guy you will not have a chance on a hot girl unless you have something very special that appeals to her.



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24 Jun 2016, 11:51 am

It seems that just by the title of the thread that all guys seem to want is the HOT girl. Typical. I think that should be addressed before you land all over the standards of NT women.


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24 Jun 2016, 11:53 am

And what does the "rebound relationship" part mean?


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24 Jun 2016, 11:55 am

BTDT wrote:
Being in the friend zone at least gives you some access to the person you desire--this gives you the chance to study and learn all about the other person without being a stalker. Ideally, you will become trusted close friends who know each others' quirks, and can escalate the relationship should the opportunity arise.

Without being seen as a stalker!
And I don't think women are generally impressed with guys who use this approach.
I think the last thing a girl wants is some creepy "friend" to hit on her when she has an argument with her bf or whatever.


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24 Jun 2016, 11:56 am

nurseangela wrote:
It seems that just by the title of the thread that all guys seem to want is the HOT girl. Typical. I think that should be addressed before you land all over the standards of NT women.


Why would we address that? It's a biological fact. And because of that, hot girls will have a huge amount of potential mates. As an Aspie, with trouble to make contact, you simply have no chance on them unless you use a different approach compared to everybody else.



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24 Jun 2016, 12:08 pm

rdos wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
It seems that just by the title of the thread that all guys seem to want is the HOT girl. Typical. I think that should be addressed before you land all over the standards of NT women.


Why would we address that? It's a biological fact. And because of that, hot girls will have a huge amount of potential mates. As an Aspie, with trouble to make contact, you simply have no chance on them unless you use a different approach compared to everybody else.


I think it needs to be brought out so that guys can also be stereotyped for what they are just like you are doing with NT women.


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24 Jun 2016, 12:10 pm

rdos wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
rdos wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
rdos wrote:
There are better alternatives. The most promising is to target hot ND girls. Many of those do not care about the typical NT-standards, and if you can trigger her ND courtship traits, this will trigger her interest in you, and give you an advantage over the huge mass of NTs.


And what are these typical NT standards?


You are an NT so you should know. :lol:

It's things like selecting guys that are wealthy or have power. To require potential mates to be socially competent and high in the hierarchy. Those are things that will bring happiness and attention to the hot NT girl.


That's just a bunch of BS. Guys who say that I believe have a chip on their shoulder.


You mean that the Hollywood housewives are not real? :mrgreen:

Regardless of "typical NT standards", if you are an ordinary looking guy you will not have a chance on a hot girl unless you have something very special that appeals to her.


A hot girl is going to want a hot guy in both the looks and the job department. Hollywood housewives are a prime example probably.

Actually, I take that back. You are probably right about hot girls wanting just money and prestige, where the Hollywood housewives come into it. Some of their husbands are butt ugly. :mrgreen:

However, they usually end up divorcing or having an affair. I think there has to be a happy medium. Decent looks and a decent job for both AND a stellar personality. I don't want to be conversing with a "shoe" constantly.


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24 Jun 2016, 12:26 pm

nurseangela wrote:
A hot girl is going to want a hot guy in both the looks and the job department. Hollywood housewives are a prime example probably.

Actually, I take that back. You are probably right about hot girls wanting just money and prestige, where the Hollywood housewives come into it. Some of their husbands are butt ugly. :mrgreen:


I think you better take that back. Looks are much more important for guys than for girls. The Hollywood housewives only do it so they too can become famous and gain in social status and prestige. If they divorce, they also get a huge amount of money they can use to uphold their fame and prestige.

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However, they usually end up divorcing or having an affair. I think there has to be a happy medium. Decent looks and a decent job for both AND a stellar personality. I don't want to be conversing with a "shoe" constantly.


I thought you would be content if he just compliments you regularly and buy you presents from time to time? Besides, if you need deeper talk, you can have it with a colleague or an affair. :mrgreen:



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24 Jun 2016, 4:31 pm

Some of you have such black and white standards for what's "hot" or attractive, and then wonder why no one looks past your difficulties and quirks to see the real you.



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24 Jun 2016, 5:11 pm

Define hot first of all...

Also, pretty sure my boyfriends approach of initially expressing interest in dating me worked better than if he'd tried to 'just make friends' even though his desire was a relationship. Nothing wrong if two people become friends initially and then mutually fall in love or whatever...but befriending someone to date them doesn't seem like the best idea.


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24 Jun 2016, 5:37 pm

TheSpectrum wrote:
BTDT wrote:
Being in the friend zone at least gives you some access to the person you desire--this gives you the chance to study and learn all about the other person without being a stalker. Ideally, you will become trusted close friends who know each others' quirks, and can escalate the relationship should the opportunity arise.

Without being seen as a stalker!
And I don't think women are generally impressed with guys who use this approach.
I think the last thing a girl wants is some creepy "friend" to hit on her when she has an argument with her bf or whatever.


Ding! Ding! Ding! We have a winner!


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