Aspie talks but ignores my post?

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So someone had told me that a mutual friend was interested in me. This guy is around 8 years older than me and he is an Aspie.. I don't mind that at all. I have also developed an interest in him. I've had people say that he seems to like me by the way he conducts himself. He also flirts occasionally (I know flirting doesn't come easy) We can have good conversations but I don't understand why he will talk to me but the not like any of my posts on social media. He likes every post that others put up, but not mine
I really like this guy but I'm being patient and trying to see where it goes. He is previously married and I've never been in a relationship before.

Thanks

Hi,

I don't think there's anything to worry about there. My boyfriend hardly likes any of my posts either, even if they are about him. I don't take it personally. I know by other things he does, that he is in to me. He shows it in his own way. I hope that helps some.

Maybe he doesn't want to seem to eager and turn you off. I know that sounds stupid and it is, but a lot of guys get used to doing that because they are used to women loosing interest. I'm not saying you are, odds are you won't. I'm jsut saying that MAY be the case.

Thanks for the input. Do you think it annoys him if I like his posts? I try not to like all of them because I don't want to seem stalker-ish or something

Probably not. If a girl does that to a guy, it's a good sign.

Actually, I'll change my answer to no. A guy wouldn't get upset by that, at all. Unless they had some sort of weird issue. You could probably even comment a picture of his and say "hey, handsome" and it all go well. The only reason that last one wouldn't go well is if he was talking to other girls also.

Yup, I think you'd be fine liking his posts. Before I asked my guy out, I was liking all of his posts. Now, we're dating.

That reminds me of him trying to get me to use his name as an answer to "things that are naturally hot" while playing a game.

I'm glad to know that I don't have to worry about him not liking my posts. We usually hang out for group sports once a week. I try to talk to him when I have a chance and I text him once in a while.. Depending on how things go I am thinking about sending him a letter and just letting him know I'm interested if he is.. but if not he is still a really cool friend

Well, you've got the right outlook. Let us know how it goes. Good luck. I'm sure it will go just fine.

Because we keep hearing from the media and from....a lot of women how we men shouldn't appear desperate toward the women we like in any way, because it is considered insecure, creepy... whatever...

So here we are... we eventually become rocks toward our crushes - bravo.


or maybe he really doesn't like the content of your posts; try to post things related to his interests and see how it goes?

I'm willing to bet it's the first one. I totally agree though. By the way Boo, I dig your posts, they are informative and amusing.

Oh well...thanks?

Just don't forget to leave your offering beneath my pedestal.

I will definitely try to post more of what interests him. Like I said, we do talk some. Although I usually do have to initiate conversations (that's normal with Aspies isn't it?) We do have a lot of the same interests, sports, mechanic work, the Bible, hiking and camping.. He's a really awesome guy if he is actually interested in me. Part of me says he is and another part says maybe not.

hahaha! There's that word again, pedestal. Careful not to fall off that thing!

It all depends on the person. Each Aspie is different of course. I do know a lot that do not initiate though. I would just see how it goes, and stay positive. That's what I had to do. At first, I wondered if he even knew I existed, but then, he started shoing interest, so I finally got the nurve to ask him out. That took guts for me, since I am shy too. LOL. When you want someone bad enough, you'll do what it takes...

I'm at a loss now.. I found out this guy has been flirting with another friend. I've heard aspies have a hard time with flirting.. but now this. I don't know whether to write him off or give him a chance